Was I mean?

[lisabeth]

There is one girl in my class who never comes to class because she works the night shift. I have walked up to her many times and spoken and she just smiles one of those "Do I have to do this" kind of smiles, but I speak anyway.

Well, today I walked up as I was waiting on class to start and she was sitting on a bench. I sat down on the other side and said hello. She gave the same smile as always.

A minute later, she had the nerve to ask me if I had the notes from Monday. I told her no. I know she stayed after class to talk to the instructor afterwards and I am sure she layed the pity party on him. I am not sympathetic for 2 reasons.

1. the way she acts on a regular basis

2. I put off going back to school for years because of that very same concern. I knew I would not have the drive to make it to class every day.

So, tell me, was I mean? I dont think so. I dont depend on everyone else because I dont feel like going to class, and I dont want to be used either.

If she came to class most days, but missed occasionally, I wouldnt mind. I dont mind helping those who try, nor do I mind helping a freind.

[PANurseRN1]

I didnt ever really think I was mean, but I did hate to lie. I think I will handle it much like what you said next time though. Probably just explain that I dont lend out my notes. :wink2:

It really took me by surprise, because like I said, she rarely says a word. Maybe what I should have titled this was " Was I mean? I think not."

I went to the instructor the next morning before my other class and showed him just what I do to my notes, just in case she had said something about me not giving her my notes. I go through the book and pick points to add to my outline, and I told him there was no way I was going to give her my notes. He said he didnt blame me one bit. I do work very hard to make the grades I make. Like I said in a previous post, I bet she wont miss class like that when she gets in the program. She may as well start off doing things right now before things get really hard.

Thanks Daytonite.

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Why did you go to the instructor? That was mean. I think you made your point that you work hard. Don't bother about whether or not someone attends class. It's not your concern. Leave that to be sorted out by staff.