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I am in the process of applying for Nurse Anesthesia programs. I have no programs in my immediate area and would have to move at least 4-5 hrs away to go to school. My husband and 3 elementary age kids would stay in our home because my husband's job is such that he can't transfer and it is too good a career to give up. I have tried to be clear on how rigorous school will be so they are prepared. My husband is concerned about the amount of money it will cost in childcare, especially since he can only hold a night job, so we'd have to have someone stay overnight. Has any current CRNA or SRNA been in this situation or had someone in their program that has? What do people do for childcare? I feel like things will work out, but he is less optimistic about this. We do have family in the area that can help some, but not enough to take the entire brunt of this.
I am currently in a CRNA program with 2 people in a similar situation, and they both seem to be struggling more than anyone else in our class/borderline not going to make it through the program...Every program is such that even if you are in the best possible position you could imagine, it will still whoop you harder than you could ever imagine. In my interview, they stressed the importance of having everything in your life as stable and "ideal" as possible. In my opinion, with the understanding of how rigorous this journey is, and also understanding how passionate you probably are for anesthesia, I would highly discourage going to school in your particular situation...The worst possible scenario is that you get halfway through, then God forbid, something within or beyond your control happens and you have to withdraw/fail, you will be in massive amounts of debt with no good way out...
Bottom line...Anything is possible, I just wouldn't make it harder on yourself than you have to...
Hello! I'm in a similar boat as you. I have two young children. My biggest fear is the need to make school my number one responsibility. I will heavily rely on my husband to be the main parent figure while I go through school. I live pretty rural, so the closest program is approx 12 hours from home. We will sell our home and all of our assets to move for school. Moms are awesome and with a spouse, anything can be done. I'm thinking that the only way we can survive this is by having my husband find a part time job so that he can manage the kids while I give my all to my schooling. That, or maybe we can hire a full time nanny for a year or two. This has weighed heavily on my mind. I'm glad I'm not the only one who has to find a way to make it work. Here I am, kicking myself for not going back to school sooner!!!!
I'm sorry that you would have to be away from your family. I can't imagine how hard that can get. At the same time, the positive is that you can fully focus on school without major distractions.
I'm editing to add to my original post... I have since read through the negativity that others have written about. Don't let what others say discourage you. Yes, we understand that it will be difficult, but not all families who go to grad school get divorced! If you have a solid team player, anything is possible. If I get in, I plan to go for it, keeping in mind the end goal. My gf graduated last year from nurse anesthesia school and she delivered a baby towards the beginning of the program. She lived eight hours away from her husband who is a rancher and couldn't move. If she can do it all on her own, you can too! :)
I'm editing to add to my original post... I have since read through the negativity that others have written about. Don't let what others say discourage you. Yes, we understand that it will be difficult, but not all families who go to grad school get divorced! If you have a solid team player, anything is possible. If I get in, I plan to go for it, keeping in mind the end goal. My gf graduated last year from nurse anesthesia school and she delivered a baby towards the beginning of the program. She lived eight hours away from her husband who is a rancher and couldn't move. If she can do it all on her own, you can too! :)
Thanks. obviously my plan isn't ideal, and while there is a high % of divorce for CRNA students, I don't think being scared of divorce is a good reason to not go back to school. There ARE families that have made it through school intact. Waiting 12 years until my kids are grown is not an option. We will continue to try to pay things off and figure out how to make this work best we can. Thank you to those that had constructive feedback to give. Hopefully I can give advice in 4 years and let people know how we managed to do it. :)
My Au Pair has been with us for 16 months. They can stay for up to 2yrs, but sign for one year. The agency will get you a new Au Pair if you have issues for some reason. I don't think it really matters what agency you use. I think the reason we have had success is because we treat each other with mutual respect; just like any relationship. You have to have some management skills. You are kind of like a manager in your home. helping with scheduling, paperwork, and you can't be their friend or too distant/demanding. It is a fine balance. You have to be professional and also caring/treat her like family. Have clear expectations before your Au Pair arrives, be honest about your life and expectations. Then you should be fine! completely worth it; and I have grown so much as a person from having her in our home. I am a better person, we are a better family. Also she just got her CNA license! Helping others grow and develop confidence is sooo gratifying â¤
The person above suggested aupair, I also have to add care.comwas a big help to me. Look for high school or college kids that have a good schedule that works with yours. Or find a cousin or another family member-if you give them money it could possibly be a tax deduction.
Live in situations could be especially beneficial for you and the babysitter/nanny/aupair.
Good luck!
fourthtimesacharm, CRNA
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Yes, thanks for this. We have already gone over the separation part. We both realize my time during school will be difficult. He has had times where he has had extensive time away from home when the kids were younger. This is a little longer, but we've dealt with similar situations. When I said he was less optimistic about it, I was referring to the childcare coverage situation. He is not an optimist and tends to think the worst. If I had someone that was already to move in and be there at nights, get the kids off to school and then help in the afternoons with sports already, he would be fine. I personally figure we have about 7 months from being accepted until the start of school to get the details nailed down. I am asking this question so people could say what worked for them in case it was something I hadn't thought of yet. I am still hoping for Mary Poppins