Venting, and Thinking that this is getting a little ridiculous.

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Hey guys!

I was called into my schools office today because someone in my clinical group said i offended them this week. What offended them was me saying that I like our clinical instructor, since i had her in lab I think this rotation will be easy. So what did the staff do, Wrote a Care Plan, that stated that i have ineffective communication, and that I will have to meet with them once a week for a month to go over what I did that week. This is getting a little outrageous. I didn't say anything vulgar, I didn't talk bad about anyone or put them down. There is one person that is strugling, and Im almost positive it was her. I just dont get this jealousy thing. I dont parade my grades around, I keep to myself for the most part. I feel like im getting singled out and basically being told to sit down and shut up. I've been labeled by this person as a "know it all". When is it a bad thing to be smart, and for the most part everyone but 1 person comes to me for help when they have questions at clinical. And if I dont know the answer to something I let them know I dont know. They also put in the care plan that doesn't accept constructive critisim, communicates aggresivly. I think thats far from the truth, Im a shy, reserved person. Im not sure whats going on, but Im not really sure what to do about it? Any Ideas? Im thinking about going above their heads... I cant control how others interpret what I say. Dont you think they should be asking these people why what i say is bothering them? Dont you think they should investigate this a little further, since this is just one student making some random claim? Ugh! Im so over this school.. I work hard , i do well, And i really really love nursing. I want to be the best most knowledgebly nurse there is, if that means i ask questions and seek more knowledge, oh well. They stated none of the staff have any issues with me, but its just this student... Honestly guys what do you think i should do?

Thanks

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Wow... that is a big pile of ****! I would be very upset that I had to be reprimanded by saying it would be an easy rotation because you had personal experience with the teacher. What is the issue with this girl?! I would be super excited to have someone help me out or study with.

My guess is she doesn't like you. Maybe something about you is abrasive to her? I have had people that did not work well with me, and it really bothered me. They just didn't like me, and I had to get used to it.

I hope everything works out for the best, but I don't really know what I would do in your situation other than be very ticked.

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Hey!

Thanks for backing me up on this, Well the girl i think it is I used to talk to and hang out with. She had some issues with other people in the class, and i never took sides, but i was helping her out and taking her to clinical for a while, but she started using me, and i put an end to it. Now that i wont take her to clinical any more, and the fact that she is struggling, and she knows im doing well is why i think she is lashing out. She also had a fall out twice last week with our clinical instructor because she's failing. UGH the faculty shouldn't be taking this like this, and saying that i dont communicate effectively? More like they need to look into why they are having issues with me, When i have my meeting with them next week im planning on telling them that this is how i feel. I dont need to be monitored, and as long as im not being vulgar, talking anyone down, or being abusive, then yes please tell me im in the wrong, but i've had nothing but praise from my clinical instructors about my proffesionalism. And your right why is that such a big deal that i get along with the clinical instructor.

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I had no idea nursing schools were now using the Nursing Diagnosis on the students themselves and writing care plans! That just strikes me as odd! I don't know why the staff would be upset about you saying you liked you clinical instructor!!:confused:

Sorry you have to go through all the drama. Very immature of people. If that one person has an issue both of you should meet with a counselor and put your cards out on the table in hopes of avoiding passive-aggressive or backstabbing classmates.

I was usually labeled "the smart one" in school, too -- there isn't a darn thing you can do about it as you are not going to do less than you are capable of to save someone else's ego. What I did is never talk about my grades, how easy I think something will be, how little time I needed to study, etc. It isn't fair to be judged like that, but people do so I just downplay it as much as I can and offer help to those who aren't catching on to things as well.

At the end of our school year we all got bracelets with a charm on them saying what our best or most appreciated quality was by the other students like "loyal" "enthusiastic" etc and mine was "brain" but they didn't hate my guts for it!

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Thinking about this more, it is so confusing. Next are they going to get you in trouble about your grades? If someone asks you what you got in the class are you going to be in trouble for telling them?

If you feel like telling your instructors about this girl that was using you will help your situation I would do it. Just be careful, since they are going to scrutinize everything you say and are going to think you are 'communicating aggressively' from the moment you walk in the door.

Good luck :)

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Dude! That is WAY crazy!

I agree w/ the others...my self preservation instinct would probably be kicking in about now and I'd very much want to ask WHY such a comment is considered to be offensive? I don't think it was at all. Not even a little bit in the gray area. I wonder if they weren't approached w/ the comment in a maybe not so true context in when it was given.

ie: perhaps portraying you as being smug and saying how you believed this clinical would be easy...because you had that instructor in a another sections..as in showing favoritism....whereas your intent was to convey that your past experience w/ that instructor gave you an idea of what to expect, what was going to be expected from you and how she likes things done.

I would most definitely be asking more questions....how it was conveyed to your school officials and how it differed from the actual conversation and the context of that conversation that got misinterpreted. If it were me I would also be adding that you went out of your way to help her when she needed transportation and it wasn't until you couldn't help her anymore (don't think I would necessarily drop the words .. "USED ME", whether she did or not) that she suddenly has all these communication issues with you. I'm floored by this whole thing just reading it no less going through it so I don't think showing alittle of that bewilderment in your meeting would hurt.

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Thanks for the support guys! I really appreciate it. Our faculty seems to take things to a whole new level and they run with things. I'm definitely going to speak with them further on this issue, which wont be till later next week, unless i stop by after clinical. Im just as bewildered as you are. It definitely came out of nowhere, and i feel is very judgmental towards me. And I don't think they can really do what it is they are doing, I mean freedom of speech right? As long as your not using offensive language or putting someone down. I think the insecurities are a little out of control. there is 6 more months left of school, and 2 weeks in this clinical rotation, and there is a chance they may be mixing up our clinical groups... Im hoping for that. I dont i feel like this is high school like, and very immature. Oh they also stated that this would help me in the future when i get a job in the hospital.. Im going to be bruttally honest and say i just dont think people here know how to communicate, or be nice, courteous .. respectful... ahh its ridiculous..

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Just thought I would post an update, Met with the teacher, let her know how i felt. She told me I'm ostrich sizing my self, and that I need to be more disrespectful. HAHAHAH! Yah no way, Im going to continue to be myself! I could care less about fitting in or having friends, Im not going to compromise my professionalism just so people will like me. Any who .. Im over it done..

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Specializes in Pediatric Private Duty; Camp Nursing.

"Ostrich sizing"? I hope that's a typo. ;) Ostracizing, perhaps?

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