This is the first time I've done this. Not expecting a reply particularly I just need some sort of outlet for all these frustrations. Does anybody else have problems with a completely unsupportive partner/spouse when it comes to their nursing career?
I'm a newly qualified nurse, only in my first post for 4 months in an ICU. I'm finding the whole thing very stressful, overwhelming and difficult to adapt to. I often come home crying or needing to vent about a difficult day. It's been putting strain on my marriage as I then often come home to an unclean house, no attempt at keeping on top of the washing and no attempts of dinner made. My husband's response to me today was how can I moan when I only work 3 days a week and have 4 off when he often will do a 7 day week (8 hour shifts). He keeps telling me to get into the real world and making me feel like I'm crazy for expecting/needing help. I don't think he appreciates how drained and exhausted I am this being my first job and the emotional toll a setting like ITU can have on someone. Or am I being crazy and need to get a grip?
I get it. I'm a few months away from finishing my first year on an incredibly stressful ICU step down unit, and you want to come home and vent to your partner after the most ridiculous days. However- I've learned that non-nurses will just never "get it". Hell, my spouse is a nurse and sometimes is just done hearing me vent. Lol!
My my advice to you regarding the pent-up energy after your shift is to make some work buddies. It took a few months, but now, three of my colleagues and I have a perpetual group text going that's a safe space to vent, complain, and ask questions with an audience that knows the subject matter. (Or allnurses!) It's really been helpful for me...especially on those nights you just need to cry or scream.
I'm not going to speak to the housework/marriage stuff. But possibly a more "therapeutic" outlet to discuss the trials and tribulations at work would ease some of the turmoil at home? Hang in there!
cubsfan16
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I get it. I'm a few months away from finishing my first year on an incredibly stressful ICU step down unit, and you want to come home and vent to your partner after the most ridiculous days. However- I've learned that non-nurses will just never "get it". Hell, my spouse is a nurse and sometimes is just done hearing me vent. Lol!
My my advice to you regarding the pent-up energy after your shift is to make some work buddies. It took a few months, but now, three of my colleagues and I have a perpetual group text going that's a safe space to vent, complain, and ask questions with an audience that knows the subject matter. (Or allnurses!) It's really been helpful for me...especially on those nights you just need to cry or scream.
I'm not going to speak to the housework/marriage stuff. But possibly a more "therapeutic" outlet to discuss the trials and tribulations at work would ease some of the turmoil at home? Hang in there!