I must admit I am disappointed by the majority of students that I find myself surrounded by in the nursing program. When I took my prereqs, I had at least one person to rely on in each class, and they were genuinely nice & helpful people!... Now that I am in the program, I have found that it is even MORE competitive than the prereqs, HOW IRONIC. Everyone seems so willing to throw everyone else under the bus. You can't imagine all the eye rolls I have seen because someone asked another question (Okay, sometimes it can be annoying, but most of the time its no big deal and yet the other students still get annoyed...)
Most of the students are "older" (I'm only 20...) so I was under the impression that this would be a good thing... Thinking that perhaps, the older students being that they were... you know... moms and such, and of a certain (I would imagine) maturity level, maybe I would really like them!
I am so turned off by how everyone else treats eachother, and even more bothered by the fact that most of these people are old enough to be my mother and still act so immaturely. I cant tell you how many times I have heard "Ugh, SHE sat in my seat today! What a B*$#ch, what was she thinking? :argue:"... Or "Some people just dont know when to shut up!:devil:"... Just stupid things that I havent seen since highschool. They are all out to save themselves and dont care if they are rude to anyone else... And I definately never thought i would see this in nursing school! Its not just the older students too, I have seen many of the younger ones be very rude to eachother...(And even to myself, for no reason)
Let me add that although I am a really shy person, I am definately agreeable, friendly (Once i know you..) and willing to help others. I wouldnt roll eyes because someone asked a question, or make someone else feel stupid. I get along with people... At the start of the semester I felt really bad that I didnt have any close nursing buddies. But as the semester rolls on, I am seeing more and more of why its quite possibly a good thing that none of these people are my friends-- They all have attitudes! They are occasionally willing to help but at the expense of making you feel like an idiot.
These ladies are going to be nurses one day... And they cant even treat eachother with respect and dignity. Thats the part that bewilders me.
(As a disclaimer I should add that I do not believe every student in my program is like this, I guess I just havent met any of the nice ones yet... Also, I am not knocking older students by any means... :redbeathe)
In any work environment you are going to have people who are inherently negative, and no matter what you say or do, they will find a reason to talk about you. The trick is to play the professional, and they will move onto someone else. Leaving your personal life at home is the best way I know of to keep the gossip to a minimum.
It has also crossed my mind that people tend to boost themselves up by putting other people down, but I have found in nursing school that even though I'm not socially popular, I am academically popular, and people have discovered over time that I will not help the ones who are busy talking a bunch of crap in clinical when they should be helping each other. They know that I watch and pay attention to my fellow students as well as my patients, and if they want my help, they have to be decent people who are really trying. While there are some that have always been catty and always will be, they know that I won't allow myself to be dragged into it. I guess you could say that I figure I may have to work with these people someday, and I don't want to burn bridges with my future co-workers by being difficult or being gossipy or catty.
Just focus on being the best nurse you can be, and you will be fine!
phoenixfire
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In any work environment you are going to have people who are inherently negative, and no matter what you say or do, they will find a reason to talk about you. The trick is to play the professional, and they will move onto someone else. Leaving your personal life at home is the best way I know of to keep the gossip to a minimum.
It has also crossed my mind that people tend to boost themselves up by putting other people down, but I have found in nursing school that even though I'm not socially popular, I am academically popular, and people have discovered over time that I will not help the ones who are busy talking a bunch of crap in clinical when they should be helping each other. They know that I watch and pay attention to my fellow students as well as my patients, and if they want my help, they have to be decent people who are really trying. While there are some that have always been catty and always will be, they know that I won't allow myself to be dragged into it. I guess you could say that I figure I may have to work with these people someday, and I don't want to burn bridges with my future co-workers by being difficult or being gossipy or catty.
Just focus on being the best nurse you can be, and you will be fine!