Today I'm bullied

[areyoubullyme]

I'm bullied again by a senior workmate at work today. It's been a while actually, but i can not stand for this any longer.

I work as an OR nurse in this department for approx 3 years, and i've been unfortunately bullied by the senior nurse/her irregularly. Why do i say irregularly? Because she is VERY moody (e.g.she can be normal/nice to you sometime, but she does not even respond when we say hello to her). She shouts at you and judges you are so wrong, when we do something in different way from she does, she tells and fights with us using the policy if we try to give her a reason untill we say "oh, you are right". She gave one of our juniors a so-negative feedback for her portfolio and this ends up the junior's failure to have her performance review with manager.

We just follow what she does, which ironically seems safe and standard practice to us. I admit most ways she does are recommended but it doesn't mean all.

She is VERY rude, shouts at us in the Operting room/in public when we come to work one minute late due to traffic jam. She talks, laughs, jokes loudly with the senior surgeons in operating room, and showing off how good relationship she has with the seniors, while we, still, as junior nurses, don't dare to ask anything non-work related, not to mention a joke.

We compromise our self-respect, esteem,but to be humiliated is so AWFUL. Today, she came to me while i was about to setup with other 2 mates. She came to the setup room and shouted at me for judging me doing so wrong. She rudely questioned me of what i did, and tested me what i should do, then blamed me for not doing the way she thought. The two colleagues both walked away(we knew its her showtime now). I gave her the reason why i did, she argued with me, shook her head and keep saying no no no, and then gave me a

snooty look in the end when she left the room. The tears in my eyes were almost burst out, and I was SO ANGRY. Now i just feel i donot wanna see and talk to her.

I try to be positive, cheerful at work, and most of days i do enjoy working with other colleagues in the department. i work very hard. I donot deserve to be bullied, and terrified by the bullys. Why do these people like this? and funny thing is, she thinks this is her leadership skills, ... what a joke! (our charge nurse and manager have a so-good relationship with her, for a certain reason).... hopeless!

Sorry for the wordiness, as i am ****** off and so angry. My hands are still shaking. Bully sucks!

----sally

[Argo]

Take your complaint up the ladder to human resources and have anyone else that is willing sign the complaint agreeing with the complaint. Even senior managers have no control over HR. Make sure they know you tried to follow the chain of command but your complaints go unheard so you took it higher.

[Scrubby]

Sounds like someone I work with!

I saw someone use this tactic recently while being bullied by a senior nurse. It worked beautifully. Next time she shouts you clutch at your stomach and say that you don't feel comfortable being shouted and she is making you feel physically ill. This stopped one of our bullies straight away.

Or you can do what I did and shout right back at them and tell them to f*ck off and leave you alone. They never ever spoke to me that way again.....

[areyoubullyme]

argo, scrubby, thousands of thank you to you guys for your understanding, support, and suggestions. it means a lot to me! :redbeathe

today i feel better. the good thing is i still enjoyed and had fun with other colleagues at work (i thought i would be mentally sick today). i just tried not to be with her around, and not talked to her, only if it's necessary work-related communication. i try to ignore her, be professional at work, and patient safety is my first priority, still.

the shocking thing happened today is the bully did the same thing to our cn terribly. she shouted at the cn in front of colleagues. the cn was so ****** off and had a face-to-face talk with her about how bad her behaviour was...

i thought they had a so-good relationship before, but it is so wrong. bully is bullying, can behave like this to anyone, anytime, once her power/seniority is somewhat intimidated, or is just out of jealousy.

i was suggested to have a face-to-face talk as well with the bully, give her feedback how i felt after be shouted. hope this can stop her doing this to others, but i wonder how can i start with, talk to her and make her realize how bad that was? any suggestions? thanks for your reading!

loves from sally