ok, i am tired, so tired, :dzed: and probably whiny but i just need to vent.
we're a little short at work and i picked up shift and then worked the weekend, it was busy, it's nearly always busy, and i had a patient on a bed alarm that i chased for a few nights, which is wearing, and another demanding patient with a demanding family member i also had for a few nights, mixed in with a few other patients who were easier to deal with even though they all had their own medical issues.
well, i passed the demanding one off to a day shift nurse who is far more experienced than i and who likes perfect patients taken care of perfectly. she's blasted me before and now since i am working tonight i am expecting to get loudly, publicly nailed again. and i am really just not in the mood, i did the best i could with that patient, they got their pain medication, an extra test due to percieved changes in their condition, which was negative and other appropriate care. they were stable and i left that morning when the family member had cornered the doc, unfortunately for him, because the day before it took him more than an hour before he got away. i'd feel sorry for him but that's why he makes the big bucks. so although the patient really isn't unstable the family member is making that patient high maintainence. since the doctor came in, the family member was there, the day shift nurse was there and he didn't have a breakfast tray yet i didn't give him his last morning meds and insulin. there was just no way to get that done once the circus started, and that's what i expect will make the day shift nurse upset with me. i also wasn't about to stay and participate in it either, i had had enough of listening to that family member and wasn't about to play the blame game. my shift was done, all other meds were passed, report was taped, i was exhausted and i left for the day. i really just didn't feel that there was anything else i could do at the time.
unfortunately i am lousy at confrontation and i'm so tired i don't know if i can keep control, i dont' know if i am going to cry or start screaming. i did have one night off and i've spent the time since catching up on meals and sleeping but i know that i'm not back to normal yet.
I've always tried to be accomodating to my coworkers. I realize that, for some reason, around 5:30 pm and am, that is when everyone in the freakin world needs to pee, get up, get pain meds, code, etc. The whole shift could be totally quiet, and then BLAM! Craziness.
Ain't that the truth? It's like they KNOW!
I have found that the more insecure the nurse, the more annoying they are to give report to. Why do they ask you every question under the sun? Because they don't know what they're doing. Why do they need every bit of history (even stuff that doesn't really matter but if they really want to know, can check the chart)? Because if they get it from you, they'll have it written down and think it will make them look smart when they give report after their shift. Why do they hunt for something that they can find that you didn't do perfectly? Because they'll never feel superior based on their knowledge or skill, so they can only do it by playing 20 questions.
Since I realized that, report is much less stressful for me. You don't like what I did for my 12 hours? Tough. I'm happy with it, and I'm a better nurse than you. So suck it!
Darn, I thought you were going to post a complaint about how RN's absolutely inundate this website with complaining and whining all the time. "Venting".
I am not an RN and won't be for 2 years, I haven't even started Nursing School yet, But I have to say, you find these kind of people (the day nurse *turd* Love that!!!) in every industry.... not just Nursing. Unfortunately these are people who for whatever reason are not happy, sociable people who want to interact with others and be a *Team Worker*. I have dealt with people like this before and I know it is very difficult, but like someone said, she won't be happy regardless of what you do. If she is not your boss, and it continues, then I would definately go to whoever is your boss and send in a letter or talk to them about it. Agreed, have it all written down and documented. You could ask her if she has a problem with you??? It may be just a clash of personalities, and that won't ever change.... bottom line is, I am sure others have this problem with her, and this is something that in my current world (we would call them Clients) but in the Medical world you call them patients, I am sure they can see that there is an undercurrent with this Nurse. If you are doing all you can, then do as *Wooh* suggested above, be proud of what you do and don't let her bring you down or make you second guess yourself. THere are ******, negative people all over, I suggest we all try to keep them out of our lives!!!
I have found that the more insecure the nurse, the more annoying they are to give report to. Why do they ask you every question under the sun? Because they don't know what they're doing. Why do they need every bit of history (even stuff that doesn't really matter but if they really want to know, can check the chart)? Because if they get it from you, they'll have it written down and think it will make them look smart when they give report after their shift. Why do they hunt for something that they can find that you didn't do perfectly? Because they'll never feel superior based on their knowledge or skill, so they can only do it by playing 20 questions.
Since I realized that, report is much less stressful for me. You don't like what I did for my 12 hours? Tough. I'm happy with it, and I'm a better nurse than you. So suck it!
We had a nurse like this on our floor , she would ask her 20 questions . One morning she started this , so I asked , "You have had these patients for the last couple of days ? ". "Yes ", she replied , " So you should know the answers to your questions ?! ", her chin hit floor and stream of questions stopped .She never did that to me again .
andie
wooh, BSN, RN
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Ain't that the truth? It's like they KNOW!
I have found that the more insecure the nurse, the more annoying they are to give report to. Why do they ask you every question under the sun? Because they don't know what they're doing. Why do they need every bit of history (even stuff that doesn't really matter but if they really want to know, can check the chart)? Because if they get it from you, they'll have it written down and think it will make them look smart when they give report after their shift. Why do they hunt for something that they can find that you didn't do perfectly? Because they'll never feel superior based on their knowledge or skill, so they can only do it by playing 20 questions.
Since I realized that, report is much less stressful for me. You don't like what I did for my 12 hours? Tough. I'm happy with it, and I'm a better nurse than you. So suck it!