I lied. There is crying. Prepare for venomous rant! I am in no way planning on quitting but I would like permission to throw a big giant temper tantrum. These are the reasons:
1) Between work and school I am gone over 50 hours a week. My husband also works full time so I am struggling to find sitters constantly--even more annoying is that there is usually some minute overlap in our schedules so I really only need a sitter for
2) I was working on a ginormous assignment yesterday and left the room to discover that my five year old snuck in like a ninja to play computer games. Instead of minimizing she chose to exit. WITHOUT saving.
3) In order to be able to attend all my classes I had to switch to working swing FRI-SUN every week as they wouldn't let me drop to relief (and that's probably a good thing consider the poor nursing student thing). My hubs works M-F. This means we never have a day off together unless one of us takes a V day which sucks because I really like him. He's swell! Not to mention my kids. I love those little people I made.
4) For as helpful as my husband is he totally doesn't understand the constant mental activity that accompanies nursing school. Just cause I am sitting there does not mean that I am relaxing. I am coming up with a mental gameplan of how I could possibly read 100 pages of my size 8 font med-surg book in the next week.
5) I am stinking chubby thanks to nursing school! I have gained 40 pounds in the last year so none of my clothes fit and I don't want to buy more (see #1--poor!). I have finally found a love for the gym but guess what? Don't have time for that either! I shoehorn in a half hour run on way to class if I am lucky.
There. I think that's it. To summarize: I NEED SUMMER VACATION.
Multi10 - In a world that is so PC, I appreciate (even if it wasn't towards me) the honesty and reality in your original post. Aren't we as nurses supposed to educate others about the consequences of our decisions? Even if we *should* know what the effects of weight gain and obesity are, sometimes we aren't wise enough to look at ourselves objectively and get real with ourselves, so occasionally it doesn't hurt to have someone else give us a dose of reality.
The OP said nothing in her first post about being pregnant and so 40 lbs is a significant weight gain in one years time assuming there is no pregnancy or medical condition to cause it. As people studying to be nurses, you should maybe lose the sensitivity chip and learn when it might be necessary to educate (or remind) someone about different things...even the sensitive topics! That is part of our job. :)
It is absolutely not our job to walk around telling people "how it is" just because we have the letters RN/LPN behind our name.
You know that person that tells "harsh truth" to friends, family, strangers, employees, employers and god knows who else because she feels it's her duty? Yeah, people don't like her very much.
It is absolutely not our job to walk around telling people "how it is" just because we haw the letters RN/LPN behind our name.
You know that person that tells "harsh truth" to friends, family, strangers, employees, employers and god knows who else because she feels it's her duty? Yeah, people don't like her very much.
Mostly, this.
Multi, it wasn't that you offered your opinion or advice. Speaking up when a red flag is raised is in the job description, and therefore necessary. The problem is that even after the OP addressed your concerns, you continued to push your point. That is not okay. The number of letters behind your name has nothing to do with it. Compassion goes a long way and doesn't require a degree.
Actually it is part of our job to HELP people. You don't help them by making excuses for them. This doesn't apply in the OP case because she was pregnant - but it does apply for someone who isn't pregnant gaining 40 pounds in a year. Sure we all have our weaknesses and some cope better than others but we need to be REAL about what we are doing to ourselves regardless. Sure Multi10 could have said it more KINDLY, but maybe the one doctor or nurse that is going to be real with the patient is the one that will make a lasting impression and help them change their life for the better!! I've seen it happen that way more than once.
And I don't know about you, but I'd rather have that friend that is painfully honest than the one that lies to my face to make me feel better. I have some pretty quality friends and we appreciate that about each other. Just sayin'.
I absolutely agree with ixchel - but Multi was kind of jumped all over just because they stated a truth, which is why I said it could have been presented more kindly but none the less it was something that maybe needed to be addressed by the OP. Anyway, no need to beat a dead horse.
Best of luck to all of us and cry when needed, it's therapeutic!!! :)
Actually it is part of our job to HELP people. You don't help them by making excuses for them. This doesn't apply in the OP case because she was pregnant - but it does apply for someone who isn't pregnant gaining 40 pounds in a year. Sure we all have our weaknesses and some cope better than others but we need to be REAL about what we are doing to ourselves regardless.
And I don't know about you, but I'd rather have that friend that is painfully honest than the one that lies to my face to make me feel better. I have some pretty quality friends and we appreciate that about each other. Just sayin'.
The OP is not my patient, your patient, or anyone else here's patient, so I'm thinking no...it's not "our job" to do anything. This is a social site. If you want to help someone here, it's done socially, not medically. It isn't your job to help everyone on the street corner whether they want it or not, and it's usually wise to meet someone where they are, not bash them over the head with what you've convinced yourself they need to hear.
And fortunately for me, extremes of people are not my only friend options to choose from.
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He's swell! Not to mention my kids. I love those little people I made.
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It is absolutely not our job to walk around telling people "how it is" just because we have the letters RN/LPN behind our name.
You know that person that tells "harsh truth" to friends, family, strangers, employees, employers and god knows who else because she feels it's her duty? Yeah, people don't like her very much.