Sunday May 19th 2024

Tweety, BSN, RN · May 19, 2024

Good morning.

Joe, sounds like you had a nice social Saturday. Hope today is well.

Got up early to feed the dogs but don't feel rested and might go back to bed. Very happy that Monday's overtime was canceled, not sure what I was thinking signing up anyway. Nothing much on the agenda but will make a visit to the beach later. Washing the sheets is in progress.

No Stars In My Eyes · May 19, 2024

Not doing so well at turning my light out earlier at night, but I am waking up around 10-10:30 AM without any alarm clock.

Got up and fed Momo, and I'm back in bed, having coffee; may get a second cup shortly.

When I opened the cabinet door under the kitchen sink last night, a little mouse quickly departed, as if it was waiting at the cabinet door to be let out; it zoomed back behind the fridge. I was hoping the sprinkling of cinnamon would deliver the message: "Hostile to Mice! Go away!" but apparently the mouse hadn't read that particular helpful hint. Guess I'll have to set some traps after all.

I can't believe it is already mid-May! If I blink, it might be mid-June before I know it. Not that mid-June is especially important, it's just that time is leaping forward in large chunks of days.

SiL and BiL will be going on vacation to Myrtle Beach from June 2nd til June 9th. It will be weird having them gone for a week. I don't begrudge them their time off, but I wish I had $ and a place to go for a week. But, I still don't know where I might go if I did have the $ and time. I kind of wish we could put Nannie in a nsg. home for respite care for a week, because then I could be "home alone" and not need to spend $ to go somewhere else.

This coming Thursday will be the first of my regular-Thursdays-off from 1 PM to 6 PM. SiL says this particular person is experienced in dementia care, loves dogs, etc. I may just spend the afternoon up here in my room, I dunno. I will probably try to make appts for Momo (due at the vet) and me (q 6 mos Dr's appt to renew meds.) on Thursday afternoons. *sigh* I suppose it will be very convenient to have every Thursday afternoon off, but this business of having 4-5 hours "off-duty" at a time....Yes, it's more than I was having, but the day begins and ends with taking care of Nannie, so I don't really consider it as a real day off. Let's face it....7 long years of nearly constant Nannie-care has burned me out, and not having 'free time' be really FREE TIME....well, y'all know what I mean ! That has been my life for a little too long now. "This too shall pass." (...."One of these days, Alice,.....TO THE MOON!")

SiL came over yesterday around noontime, and gave Nannie a shower and got her dressed, so that was a nice unexpected "treat". She had wanted BiL to come over here with her to do some yard work, but he has been feeling under the weather d/t allergies and a cold.

BiL had told me that Nannie can pay the $400 for the lawyer it's going to take to change my will so step-dgt isn't the executor or have power of attorney if something happens to me. SiL was mentioning that I could sign the house over to BiL and avoid the hassle of all that would be involved because Nannie has left it all to me...you know, inheritance taxes and insurance, etc. They said no matter what I decided about that I would definitely still have a place to live here, as long as I need it. I can see the pros and wonder about the cons. I don't want to squeeze myself into a spot where I end up NOT getting what I consider my "retirement fund", because really, that is the only $ I would get to live on. I can't support this house on my SS check but with no pay for Nannie-care, utilities, and groceries. Well, the groceries would be less if I wasn't having to feed Nannie, but that isn't that much of a problem. Still, like I said, all I have to live on in my 'old age' would be the $$ from the sale of the house. But the house needs fixing up first before it would be sold, if I didn't want to accept an 'as is' offer.... which I could not afford to do. I think SiL was saying that BiL was thinking this house and property would be a better spot for them to live as they age. Their property where they live now is rather hilly and BiL says he may not be able to take care of that place the way he has been doing. Age is a consideration for both of us, but I don't want to "scheist" myself out of anything I am due from Nannie's will. BiL would still get 1% of the $$ rec'd from sale of the house, but I'm thinking that probably wouldn't be all that much, and actually, he would have to approve a sale because if he didn't, it couldn't be sold! That's why I need to talk to the lawyer first. I actually was thinking of them having more than that percentage amount of the worth of the house, but like I said, I don't want to end up losing out myself! (RoseAnne Roseannadanna: "It's always something!") I do see the benefit of NOT having to deal with the house and property, like I did not want to take on the onus of having to deal with all of Nannie's financial stuff and ceded that to BiL's care....Well, it'll all work out somehow.

Welp it is getting on time to get dressed and go downstairs to get the Nannie-person up. Have no plans that I can think of that I want to tackle today. I may come up with something, and I may just go into (like Sabby used to say) SLOTH-MODE and do not too much of anything at all. Ah me. Oh my.

Later, you'n's~

Editorial Team / Admin · May 19, 2024

Hello all!

Joe, yes you had a very busy day yesterday! I am waiting to hear how your first date went (not a voyeur or anything, I promise! Just nosey!).

Tweety, glad you got back safely. It's probably good the OT got cancelled. ENJOY your time off!

No Stars, hello to you and to Momo! Those upcoming appointments are ever-present. Hope the gypsies are behaving. I hope you can get some respite time soon, that a place will open up for Nannie -- even temporarily!

We had a quiet day yesterday, after attending Zoom Sabbath School. After lunch we took a short nap, then got ready and met friends at our favorite Vietnamese restaurant. We had a VERY nice visit, with these friends from BK (Before Kids). We all agreed we need to do that More Often!

Today we plan to meet with fiddler and begin practices for our upcoming August program at the festival (the Sunday morning gospel program).

I never pulled out the tomato and bell pepper plants, through the Winter (yah, I'm a TERRIBLE gardener!!), and while the bell pepper plant doesn't look so good, the tomato plant (while also not looking great) has wound itself around and through the large hibiscus plant, and is now producing blossoms and lots of baby green tomatoes! Some are too high for me to reach, LOL! Dh calls them hibiscus tomatoes!

We have a program in a week, at a church in Riverside. We will be helping friend C with music for the church service. Hopefully our fiddler can come too, as her playing (to C) is an integral part of the program. We'll find out today!

Have a good day!

No Stars In My Eyes · May 19, 2024

Maybe BiL and SiL can set me up in a small 'mother-in-law' sized trailer in the back yard, and they can live in the big house. (A MiL size trailer is about half the size of a 'normal' mobile home.).....or they could put up a "tiny home" in the back yard. As long as I don't have to climb a ladder to get into bed, I could deal with that. Oh, and I would also need to have a small shed to store my stuff and junk. I'd have to off-load a lot of my things if I were to live in a tiny home, but there are things I'd still want to hang on to. I don't know if they'd want to live in this house...but I would feel better if I was still living on the property here....the back yard is large enough to accommodate a small building without it seeming too crowded. But I don't know what the law says about having a second 'home' on the property, like zoning laws and how it would change taxes, etc. Something to look into, anyway....

CrunchRN, ADN, RN · May 19, 2024

Stars- do you have any realistic idea what the house would sell for "as is". That would be a great starting place for decision making.

No Stars In My Eyes · May 20, 2024

Not really, though I seem to think some one of those "we'll buy for cash" businesses that keeps sending Nannie postcards gave an offer of $280, +++, but that's a sight- unseen offer. I have been browsing the tiny house sites, just out of interest....lots of 'em are pretty spacious-looking, and nice and some of them are squinched-up looking and rather ugly inside. Little houses are accepted here in this county as long as they are not on wheels. I know the back yard is plenty big enough. And there's always the process of getting one shipped or built here and hooked up to water, sewer, etc. However the prices I looked at went from $40,+++ up to $90, +++. Oh, yeah, right in my price range! (Hahahahaha!) Anyway, Nannie is still alive and kicking, so there's no rush on the plans, but we'll kick ideas around and see where we land.