Sunday February 26 2023

Tweety, BSN, RN · Feb 26, 2023

Good morning!

Joe, hope you have a good day.

I've never been in a private jet or limo. I'm too ghetto.

j22, hope the air fried chicken turns out good. I think as long as it doesn't dry out, the juices from the chicken make it good and you don't miss all the oil from what I've heard.

Ado, hope your pet is comfortable. Interesting in the change in gma.

I went to hot yoga yesterday and stopped by the Asian market afterwards and by the time I got home was too lazy to cook and had ramen noodles for dinner from the packet. It was good.

I got some dragon fruit which I'll have for breakfast and some Chinese eggplant I'll make Asian style. Got some taro root and not sure what to do with it. I do have a recipe for Indian style.

We do have several gay sports teams in the area, bowling, volleyball, kickball, softball, and even dodge ball. I was in a gay men's book club, and the bowling league I go to is about 80% LGBTQ. I used to go to Metropolitan Community Church is all gay. I even went to 12 step meetings that were LGBTQ. Interesting, looking back, that in my social network I've stuck to my own community. I think it's just easier to be my authentic self around queer people. Although it certainly is easier in 2023 than it was in 1977 when I came out to be my authentic self in all situations.

Hope everyone has a good day.

Ado Annie, ASN, RN · Feb 26, 2023

I had an uncle who was an Air Force pilot. When he retired from the Air Force he worked for a private company that provided jet service and flew people on Lear jets. He flew some celebrities. Once when we were visiting them we went along on a flight where he was training/evaluating a pilot. For some reason I thought that was in a 727 but looking back I think it might have been a Lear. Then when I went to the aviation-oriented Girl Scout event in Arkansas we toured a place that customized the fancy Lear jets and we got inside one. Lots of leather, etc.

A few years ago the hospital I was working for had a big Christmas party for mgmt (I was a floor supervisor so was invited). My friend/coworker rented a "limo" van to pick us all up. It was nice not to have to drive and we had fun with friends but it didn't matter how posh it was or wasn't.

No Stars In My Eyes · Feb 26, 2023

Tweety said:

I'm ghetto: my authentic self

???? Tweety, It's all that BLING you wear!! Hahahahaha!

No Stars In My Eyes · Feb 26, 2023

Tweety~ PS, glad your 'ghetto-self' trousers don't be hangin' off your buttocks! Okay, so I confess, goofiness abounds in my brain once in a while.

It is cool, in the upper 50's, overcast, sprinkling at intervals. I dashed out to Walmart early (for me) to get Nannie's Lexapro, because the pharmacy is closed for lunch on Sundays, from 1-2 PM and I didn't want to hang around waiting for it to reopen.

Hope hubby and the doc can agree on a sleeping med tomorrow. I know the booze throws off his sleep-pattern. As in, if you drink during the day you will nap a lot, and that's what he does. Then he c/o not sleeping well at night. But maybe the doc will re-start him on something to detox him, and if he will follow the 'rules' maybe he can get back into sleeping at night and NOT napping so much during the day. Of course, if he had friends and hobbies or SOMETHING that would keep him awake in the daytime, he might actually sleep at night. He's just aggravated and bored stiff with this whole Living-With- Nannie thing. Me, too, but at least I can read and do puzzles to occupy my head. And I continue praying a LOT.

Now with her 1+1/2 q AM Lexapro re-started, Nannie sleeps a lot during the day, AND most of the time at night, too. But last night she'd been in bed for 30 minutes when she opened the bedroom door and came out into the den and asked, "What's going on?" and if she was missing anything. Yeah, you are missing something, Nannie.....you have only been in bed for 30 minutes! Your inner-clock is WAAAAAY off!

Hubby told her, "Sure, come on out and watch the TV that you don't understand half the time anymore." So she did, for about 10 minutes. There were a slew of commercials running, you know, those 20 and 30 second commercials that play one right after the other. I mute them out. She thinks they are real people, maybe even related to us, or they were here yesterday, or she spoke to one of them on the phone.... Also, she thinks there is one sort of drama or another going on, like, "He is mad and is chasing that other person,"....uh, no, they are jogging. "She is limping,"....no, she is dancing. D'Oh! It is incredible what she comes up with: misinterpretations of the most bizarre kinds! One day we may get to the point where we don't turn the TV on at all, if she keeps getting worse. What drives me the craziest is when, during a news story I want to listen to, she starts making comments that we can barely hear; then it turns out (if we ask 'what?') she is saying how the newscaster's tie is pretty, or some other out-of-the-blue comment. Now I have started not asking, "What?" and just ignore her peeping. And of course hubby says, "If you can't speak louder, we can't hear you! Speak up!" Then she gets mad and won't say anything (until the next time it happens). Last night she went back in her bedroom and SLAMMED her door.

Hubby just asked me if he couldn't do what the doctor and I want him to do, how is that going to affect our relationship? He has been doing well with the drinking less and is not reeling and tumbling, and we can actually have real conversations. But, I told him that he is the one who will suffer if he can't detox. He has already been ruining his guts and may be going to make me a widow earlier than I'd prefer....I said if he detoxes, yes, he is going to have some rough days, but he'll have to get through them if he wants to "get the monkey off his back." The only way OUT is through! But, HE has to make up HIS mind that that's what he WANTS to do, and if not....OH WELL! He said, "Well, I'll TRY, but I can't promise anything." (I naturally thought of Yoda's "There is no 'try'....there is only "do" or "don't do.")

Blah-dee-blah, and like that, and like that. At least I don't feel all torn up about things.

meh

Tweety, BSN, RN · Feb 26, 2023

When I started on the unit I currently work on about 13 years ago it got back to me that two of my female co-workers including my charge nurse, were talking and one said that I was too ghetto to work on that floor. At that time is was just joint replacements, and a highly regarded floor for it's great customer service because it only had 8 beds and they all were elective surgeries. A big money maker for the hospital. I think she was being racist because of how I got along with the African American CNA's and that I live in a black part of town. But also I know she didn't like male nurses and had run one off. She's about the only nurse bully I've come across in my 30 years of nursing and she wasn't horrible, just snide in her comments. It was clear she didn't like me. She later had a stroke and had to get off of floor nursing and is a case manager. The other one died a sad death of lung cancer. I'm still there and the black CNA's on the floor we merged with love working with me. During a CNA meeting my name came up as the one charge nurse they like working with. So there's that. Not that it bothered me at the time.

"I'll try but I can't promise anything" is a way out and non-commitment. I know you're not holding your breath Stars. But failure sometimes makes us like that, afraid to make commitments and go all in. God knows I've failed many times to quit smoking (smoke free since 1988), drinking (alcohol free since 1996) and to eat right and exercise (still failing at this one). But it you gotta keep trying......

nursej22, MSN, RN · Feb 26, 2023

Stars, it's too bad your hubby thinks he has to do this all on his own. But I'm guessing he will not reach out to AA or another group, or counseling.Recovery takes more that a few days of pills, but of course, you know that.

Well it snowed, and then warmed up and rained, and now the sun is out. I was thinking about a long walk, but my tummy is upset for some reason. We went to a different place for breakfast and it's just not sitting right. Oh well, this will pass. We are going to grandson's hockey game this afternoon. And dh mumbled about going to buy something somewhere.

I think most pharmacies around here close for lunch. I think most are understaffed so it's not like they can stagger shifts.

Annie, I hope your dog is comfortable.

Joe, I like zinnias, but we don't have enough hot days for them to do well here. I had them in Idaho and they were spectacular. I don't have much luck with petunias either, because the slugs mow them down.

Tweety, I guess I take for granted that LGBTQ would be accepted, because I don't sense there is much exclusion around here. But that is likely due to my hidden bias. No one should have to hide who they are.

No Stars In My Eyes · Feb 26, 2023

Ah, I see now. I wasn't sure of where the "ghetto"-ness was coming from. I used to do hospital staffing when I worked for the agency, and at two different hospitals, sometimes I was the only white person on the 3-11 shift. It was kind of interesting....some nurses might briefly talk to me and some didn't even look at me. I was probably the most UNghetto person around. But there were times when I was specifically requested at those hospitals for 3-11, so I reckon they didn't hold my fish-belly whiteness against me.

Ado Annie, ASN, RN · Feb 27, 2023

The wind is picking up. I can hear it. Our forecast includes fast-moving storms with potential for tornados, and 90+mph winds. Twin B will be manning the desk at the hospital from 11 -7. If they do have a tornado warning I hope someone thinks to let him know and let him go to the back, away from all the glass in the lobby.

Stars, I'm discouraged by the "I'll try but I can't promise anything" even though I understand how daunting things must seem for him.