Sunday February 12 2023

[Joe NightingMale, MSN, RN]

Dianah that sounds like a fun time

Stars I probably need to go through my closets as well

Tweety the play sounds interesting.  Though typically I only attend play if J is going

NJ22 it's too bad that the local counselors have such specialized or off the wall focuses

Ado my sister did some sailing in college

Yesterday was fairly busy initially, with the baking and the cleanup and the laundry.  Then the usual lunch with dad, exercise, and Svengoolie.   I notice that I tend to feel a bit down when things slow down.  But overall a good day

Today will go early to church to set up for coffee hour and adult education.  Will have to leave the latter early as I'm ushering too.  The boiler is in need of repair so we're meeting in the parish hall the next few Sundays until that is done

Rest of the day will be quieter.  Will stop at the store, do the cooking for the week (pretty easy slow cooker recipe) and work on the list of counselors.  

Will be a warmer day today in the upper 40s

[Tweety, BSN, RN]

Good morning!

Joe, hope you have a good day.  Sounds morning of service at church.

The play was really good.  George made some good pasta with some vegan meatballs his neighbor gave us from Ikea.  I brought a fruit bowl which we ate after the play.  It was "on sale" but cost $10 but it was good.  

Nothing much happening today.  I'll wait until my dryer is fixed before trying to do laundry but it's really stacking up.  

Hope everyone has a good day.

[No Stars In My Eyes]

Hello to one and all~

Hubby woke me up today saying I needed to get Nannie's meds and come downstairs. So, I did, thinking she was already up. Nope. So I had to get her up out of bed and to the bathroom and get her dressed and out to the recliner. Hubby brought her yogurt and cran-apple down to the den and then he wanted us to go sit in the kitchen, closing the door between the stairs down to the den so we could talk. (huh.)

He woke up at 4:30 AM and had to go out to the Ford to take in some booze to stop his headache and calm his stomach down. He SAID he called the two detox/rehab places we had been looking at and said (I am quite dubious about this) they told him there were no openings until August and September.

For a 24/7/365 place not to have any openings until September seems mighty weird to me, but I didn't correct him. The other place is a 9-5, M-F and is not residential.

So, he said , "I'm going to need your help." My eyebrows rose invisibly and my snort of doubt was silent. I told him that's what I've been doing. (Though maybe he had sensed my drawing back from the whole rigamarole.) Anyway, he said when he goes to the doc appt on Thursday he is going to ask him if he would be willing one more time to allow hubby to do the med detox at home, and this time he promised to stay with the program. He said he can't keep ruining his body and mind with vodka, he doesn't want to go through DT's and he doesn't want to have any seizures.

So, I said, "Okay." That's about as helpful as I feel like being right now, especially since it is Sunday and 4 days until his appointment. So, he says he is planning to stay moderate with his drinking in the meantime. Okay, we'll see how this goes, eh?

It is cool, off and on rainy, and I had to put out some dry birdseed for my many customers. There were about 2 dozen sparrows and our 'pet' woodpecker was also out there, pecking around in the wet stuff. I know that when birdseed starts to sprout, they won't eat it .When the rain stops (probably tomorrow, maybe?) I will rake up all the old seeds out onto the yard where there is no grass...my fairytale expectation is that the seeds will sprout and grow like grasses. YUH. 

Now 3 PM and hubby is back out in the Ford; Nannie is sleeping as per usual in her recliner. I have no energy to do the cleaning in my room, nor vacuuming the den, so I am going to sit here with my laptop and go through the news feeds.

[nursej22, MSN, RN]

Hi. I just finished my homework: read the last assigned chapter, took a quiz, went out to gather my soil sample for testing, and did the crossword puzzle. Dh asked me what I was reading and then proceeded to explain it all. Uh thanks? It felt a little like mansplaining, but I just thanked him. It's raining. The pregame show is on the TV and dh and the dog are snoring. I enjoy the commercials. Dinner will consist of various chips and dips. 

Hang in there, Stars. I understand you being skeptical. Of course, detoxing is only going to work when dh fully buys into it. It sounds like he is still trying to bargain about it. 

I saw some slow cooker soup recipes in the New York Times this morning that I will try may later this week. 

[No Stars In My Eyes]

We're watching Investigation ID (crime show) and Nannie tells us that SHE was run out of New York City by 'those people'.  I told her she'd never even been to NYC, but she said she had so been there!

DING-DONG!

 

[Tweety, BSN, RN]

What kind of dinner is "various chips and dips"?  LOL.  But I'm down for that.

Stars, I'm getting deja vu since you've related this conversation with him almost verbatim before.  Often alcoholics will have these moments and make promises but when the time comes......well you know.  But, as I've said before if you don't keep trying to quit, you don't quit.

I was super lazy today but made it to the gym and grocery store.  

 

[No Stars In My Eyes]

Yeah, you are right, Tweety,  about the conversation being one we've had before. (Re-run!) The only time it is initiated by him....is when he has finished off the last of the vodka on hand.

I did think, but didn't say, "Tell me this when you are sober." because I know he will 'have to' go out to the ABC store in the morning. 

Basically, I don't feel like I was suckered in to getting excited about him pushing to go all detox on me. Like I said, he has 3 + 1/2 days to go before his appt w/ doc, and we know that's a lot of days to an alcoholic------------

Don't know what it is I can do to "help" him detox. That is a solo inner-expedition. I'm 'supportive', I guess, but I am not cheering his latest talk. Mostly I find the entire business feels quite tiring.

[Ado Annie, ASN, RN]

We were lazy and didn't go to church. Again. Watched the football game and had the traditional "various chips and dips". 

[Tweety, BSN, RN]

Stars, yep not much you can do.  You are as supportive as you need to be.  I do think you hold back.  What's wrong with gently saying "tell me this when you're sober because I've heard this before."  Or letting him know "I expect that you're going to live up to your promises and stay sober.".  "You've let me down many times and your drinking is affecting me in such and such a manner." Yes it's like talking to a brick wall and it might cause a confrontation so I can understand the silent approach as well.  But many times you say "I thought...." but didn't say it out loud.   I'm glad though you feel free to say what you choose not to us.  You need an outlet for your feelings.  

Chips and salsa are the #1 Super Bowl Food and 1.4 BILLION chicken wings were eaten.  Apparently the Super Bowl is our #2 day for food consumption after Thanksgiving.  Who knew?  I would have thought Christmas or Easter, or even the 4th of July.  I do know I'm seeing on facebook and Instagram some really nice spreads.