A little background on my dilema. In the Spring semester I took my only pre-req that I needed to get in to NS with a girlfriend. It was great to, she is really awesome at taking notes so she gave me all the notes and they really helped me alot. Since the semester ended she has decided to sell the home she lives in and move to her cottage which is fine. She said she would still be attending school with me in the Fall for A&P I. She told me to call her when I paid my bill to remind her to pay her tuition bill as well, which I did. When I called in the beginning of July to remind her to pay the bill she said it was in her pile of things to pay and mentioned that money was tight (which I knew her and her partner were having some money trouble which is why they are selling their house and moving to the cottage so they can cut expenses). Well I have spoken to her and her partner since and I know they have been very busy getting their current home ready to put on the market and their cottage ready to move in to. Yesterday I got an email from my friend telling me that she is dropping A&P I for the fall semester. She said that it was too stressing for her at the end of last semester fixing up the house while going to school and that she needed to get her priorities straight. She said her goal right now is to finish getting the cottage ready so they could move and get the house on the market. She said that she would take A&P I in the Spring 09 semester instead and to let her know if I was going to wait to take A&P I with her and take something else for Fall or if I was going to take A&P I anyway and try it on my own. So I emailed her back and said that I understood and that I didn't know what I would do about the class that I was going to wait a bit longer so I could think about it.
Now here is my dilema. I will not be taking any nursing courses until fall 2009 so my plan was to take just A&P I & II this academic year so I wouldn't have to take it concurrent with nursing courses. But my plan was to take all my classes with my friend so we could do this together. I could easily change to another course that I would need for NS anyway (I just can't take any core nursing classes until I am an accepted student which I am expecting to be in the fall 09, I have already applied and meet the criteria to be accepted so I do not think I will be turned away.) BUT, I was planning on attending NS and preparing to attend before I even knew that my friend was considering it as well. So bascially even though I was planning on taking all my classes with my friend, my plan never really changed other than adding her into it. Now that she won't be attending in the fall I am wondering if I should just take a different course and wait to take A&P I with her and then possibly wind up waiting another year to begin any nursing classes or do I stick with my original plan and hope that she doesn't feel like I am abandoning her.
My DH brought up a good point, I used her notes all semester last year so part of me was relying on her to get me through the course and I shouldn't have done that. DH thinks that I should go ahead and try A&P without her and see if I can manage it. My thought now is that maybe I should just go ahead and take the course anyway since when I first started looking at changing careers, my friend was never part of my plan so I would have been taking all of my classes alone, KWIM? My other thought is that maybe she is having second thoughts and doesn't want to admit that to me so if I do wait to take A&P with her in the spring and she decides once again not to take it, then I would be really upset with myself for waiting. Yet I do not want to upset my friend by taking the course when she may really be intending to take the class in the spring.
One thing I am sure of, I want to A&P I & II alone with no other courses so I can concentrate on just A&P. From what I understand, it is alot to learn and A&P is my deciding factor as to whether I will truly persue nursing or not. I figure if I can't make it through A&P then I will never make it through the program itself. I am willing to put off taking any core nursing classes to the fall of 2010 to wait for my friend if she is really serious about NS. She, like me, thinks that A&P will be tough enough and agreed that maybe it should be taken alone so we would only have to concentrate on that one course. If she is serious about taking A&P alone and will not begin it until spring, then she will not take any nursing courses until the fall of 2010. Which I would be fine with waiting another year (considering that it took me 20 years to get the guts to actually attempt NS, what is another year right?)
So, do I take A&P I in the fall and continue on as planned or do I take Sociology in the fall (which I would need for the program anyway) and wait to see if my friend attends school in the spring?
Well I have decided to take A&P I without my girlfriend. I have to remember something........at first I was expecting to go to NS alone so at first I was expecting to take A&P alone. It would be great to have a buddy in the class but I was willing to do this alone to begin with, I should still be willing to do this alone now. If she does go back in January and take A&P I, then that is great, but I have already said that I am doubting she will do that.
I can look at the bright side, my niece is graduating high school in June 2009 and is considering NS, and considering the same school I attend. So I could be in NS with my niece, that would be neat.
Yay! I'm so glad you decided to go ahead! That would be incredibly neat to go to NS w/ your niece, mine's 5...so if I'm still in school when she gets there....
I know how you feel, everyone would love to go through things in life with someone by their side, but i think you did the right thing by taking the class alone. Your friend is not gonna be there 24/7 when you get your nursing job. Hard work and dedication is the key, you wll do just fine. Also ask yourself this question: if the tables were turned would she have waited for you???
I am so glad to hear that you decided to go on. When I was taking A&P I last summer I met two wonderful girls and we all became fast friends. We ended up taking both Micro and A&P II together last fall but then things came up for me and I had to drop. I have still kept in contact with them and one of them got accepted to start Resp Tech school this fall. The other girl has retaken a few classes and is now still on track to start NS with me. But who knows what will happen. I am a little sad to think I won't have them to take Micro with because they were a blast in Micro Lab, but I know I will get through and so will you!!! Good luck.
Oh, and by the way something in your original post bothered me. You were worried about upsetting your friend by going ahead and taking the class...but she is the one who changed the plans and not you, so shouldn't she be the one worried about upsetting you and not the other way around?
Oh, and by the way something in your original post bothered me. You were worried about upsetting your friend by going ahead and taking the class...but she is the one who changed the plans and not you, so shouldn't she be the one worried about upsetting you and not the other way around?
You are so right, I am a bit bothered that she dropped the course and I know I shouldn't be since I was planning on going to NS anyway. It just seemed nicer with someone I know.......a buddy, KWIM?
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Yay!
I'm so glad you decided to go ahead! That would be incredibly neat to go to NS w/ your niece, mine's 5...so if I'm still in school when she gets there....
Good luck!