Got your attention with that one.....I really don't want to turn this into a match.com type of thing, but how many of you out there are going through the whole deal single, away from hometown family/friends, and significant other Atlanta-based relationship that just went south for more than a winter.......being out-of-state sucks too.
Don't tell me to toughen up, I've been living single and preparing for this since high school, it is just this old cowboy is tired of the range as of lately and the game is getting old here recently. Being the only single male (27) in class ain't exactly helping matters either.
Just wanted to know how some of you guys and girls are dealing with this, hopefully better than I am as of lately. What is good is that the boredom of continual memorization is over and classes are now only 1 day / week, rest of time is spent being indentured servant (sp?), but that all changes in Aug 06.
Absolutely not, everyone is pulling their own weight. You will notice in anesthesia school that the students in general keep their mouths shut, instructors don't like people that complain or try to take the easy way out at all. And some students have really hard lives, traveling for eight hours from their distance center to attend school at the main campus for two weeks (and being away from family for this amount of time) is required and you just have to suck it up. Anesthesia school is definitely not for those weak complainers you see in nursing school, they would be weeded out the first semester. Anyway, you have to have experience in all kinds of cases so it really wouldn't benefit them to get the easy assignments.
I hear some of what you guys are saying, but in all honesty, I'm loving being single! While classmates are upset about not seeing their spouses/kids/pets/etc, I'm making my weekend plans. My family is 3 hours away, and I see them every few months. Of course, my Mom listens to me whine pretty much every day about how much school sucks. My weekends are spent doing what I want, without having to be committed to one person. I've been lucky to find a local outdoors club with people who are into the same stuff I am, so I'm rarely at home. Another thing that may change my situation somewhat is that I'm in a really cool city that is perfect for young single girls (in my opinion). I hear you about vacation though. Luckily, the outdoors club I'm in also has tons of socials and trips that are planned. I guess what I'm trying to say is to find something, a club or group of people, that you can get involved with. I love being single, but alot of that is probably attributed to how much fun I'm managing to have!
NCgirl, what city do you live in, if you don't mind me asking? I'm stuck in Philly for the next 2 years for anesthesia school (NOT a great city for singles), but after that, who knows? Just want to keep my options open..... I guess because I am just recently single in the past few months I still don't know all that is out there for singles to do..... I'm so used to having a guaranteed dinner date for the weekends.....
Emerald, try living in the suburbs of detroit. It's no ghetto, in fact very nice but there's really not much to do in detroit downtown. I hang out a lot in the suburbs but i have to say it's not great for singles either. I am actually envious of where you are. I think we should hook up with NCgirl and this social club of hers :chuckle
My mom hates travelling solo and she goes on trips run by the Sierra Club. Often they are service trips to eradicate non-native plants or something, but some are all leisure. She really likes it as she meets like-minded people.
I'm newly married and worried about the stress on my marriage. I just don't know what school will be like. I have a feeling my worst imagining isn't bad enough! It must be quite lonely being single. Probably you will meet more people when you're in your clinicals, where you work with docs, residents, OR nurses, etc. I could see how going to class with the same 15 or so people for a year could seem a bit stifling.
Jewelcutt, I don't know how old you are, but Emerald is really young! You will have plenty of time when school is over to meet someone if you don't during the program. I think you should file the cat-filled house image away for a few years.
My mom hates travelling solo and she goes on trips run by the Sierra Club. Often they are service trips to eradicate non-native plants or something, but some are all leisure. She really likes it as she meets like-minded people.
I'm newly married and worried about the stress on my marriage. I just don't know what school will be like. I have a feeling my worst imagining isn't bad enough! It must be quite lonely being single. Probably you will meet more people when you're in your clinicals, where you work with docs, residents, OR nurses, etc. I could see how going to class with the same 15 or so people for a year could seem a bit stifling.
Jewelcutt, I don't know how old you are, but Emerald is really young! You will have plenty of time when school is over to meet someone if you don't during the program. I think you should file the cat-filled house image away for a few years.
I'm in Charlotte. And I don't think being single is lonely. Notice I said I'm single---which only means I'm not dating one person seriously. (Which involves dating multiple people non-seriously.) Maybe it's my age as well (26), but I'm just having too much fun to settle down with one person. You can all come here after graduation, I'm sure I'll still be single and having a fabulous time!!!
I'm 25 and I date, just none that are really interesting. Don't get me wrong, I don't sit at home all the time, the whole routine just gets kind of boring after a while. Plus I think the weather has a lot to do with it, in the summer i like shed a cocoon and have a blast, but this damn bitter weather just makes us michiganders want to stay inside. Can't rollerblade or even go outside without gloves, hat, boots, scrape away the ice, all pale like a ghost, it's real attractive. Apais, from what I've noticed, it's the wives of husbands in school that have a hard time dealing with their time commitment. I think husbands of wives don't have that needy drive for constant attention like we women do, I find most husbands are phenomenal supporters of their srna wives.
Jewelcutt, I hear you on the weather thing! I cocoon also, Vermont winters are a b*tch. The long stretch of below-zero we just had really bummed me out. I have some SAD too, doesn't help. I'm a little sorry I'll be going to school in Maine, but hubby promises we can move somewhere warmer and with more sun afterward. I don't need Florida - heck, Virgina would do it!
I'm an introvert and I know that I often have trouble getting myself to socialize and I know I'd be lonely as a single SRNA because I'd be so busy and not even have my husband's company or activities he initiates with friends. If you're a social type like NCGirl it wouldn't be so hard.
Glad to hear that being a female SRNA is easier than being a woman married to one! My husband's graduate program was grueling, he tells me, but it was before I met him. I always feel for the wives of male residents, especially those with children. Raising kids is exhausting enough without that stress.
I guess I'm starting all this on the right foot - supportive husband with an income, no kids, a few recent courses to polish my study skills. I'm still nervous!
It is all relative. Single SRNAs are lonely and feel like a third wheel with the married couples. Married couples worry about not spending enough time with the spouse and kids. Here is another perspective---try doing it while being married and not being able to be with your spouse. My wife lives over 6 hours away and i rarely get to see her. So, I now become the third wheel to other married couples and feel uncomfortable doing the whole clubbing/dancing thing with the single students. I will say that I am blessed to have a loving, supportive wife who is handling things away from me the best she can. Nightly calls, web-video emails, and frequent cards and brief notes of my adoration probrably help sate this need for attention that was mentioned earlier. At any rate, I agree it would be hard going through it single in some programs. My program is one of the largest in the country, though, so there are plenty of other singles to do things with if you do not have that serious someone. I think it all depends on the program. In mine, I think it is tough for the married student who lives away from their spouse and doesn't get to see them much. Again, everything is relative.
I was just recently accepted to a CRNA program. I start this fall and begin my clinical the following summer.. I am married with two small kids.. unfortunately, i have to move to my clinical area that is 3 hours from my home. I have heard that there is a roughly 50% divorce rate for SRNAs. Has anyone else heard this? My wife supports me 100% but you have to wonder if she fully understands my upcoming responsibilities. I plan on going home as much as i can on the weekends but I have told her it may not be possible. I guess i need to get a webcam too..
It is all relative. Single SRNAs are lonely and feel like a third wheel with the married couples. Married couples worry about not spending enough time with the spouse and kids. Here is another perspective---try doing it while being married and not being able to be with your spouse. My wife lives over 6 hours away and i rarely get to see her. So, I now become the third wheel to other married couples and feel uncomfortable doing the whole clubbing/dancing thing with the single students. I will say that I am blessed to have a loving, supportive wife who is handling things away from me the best she can. Nightly calls, web-video emails, and frequent cards and brief notes of my adoration probrably help sate this need for attention that was mentioned earlier. At any rate, I agree it would be hard going through it single in some programs. My program is one of the largest in the country, though, so there are plenty of other singles to do things with if you do not have that serious someone. I think it all depends on the program. In mine, I think it is tough for the married student who lives away from their spouse and doesn't get to see them much. Again, everything is relative.
I have heard that there is a roughly 50% divorce rate for SRNAs.
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Honey, that is no higher than the national average for "regular" folks! (Sad, but true, and I am one of those statistics).
I'm sure it is hard, but it can be done. (I think - don't ask ME for advice regarding how, though! )
I think the quality of your relationship, and your willingness (both of you) to continue to nurture the relationship matter more than geography ever could.
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Absolutely not, everyone is pulling their own weight. You will notice in anesthesia school that the students in general keep their mouths shut, instructors don't like people that complain or try to take the easy way out at all. And some students have really hard lives, traveling for eight hours from their distance center to attend school at the main campus for two weeks (and being away from family for this amount of time) is required and you just have to suck it up. Anesthesia school is definitely not for those weak complainers you see in nursing school, they would be weeded out the first semester. Anyway, you have to have experience in all kinds of cases so it really wouldn't benefit them to get the easy assignments.