Quitting? Bummed out. :o

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Looks like I'm soon to be an ex-nursing student. :o

My husband and I have been hashing things out on the phone. He lives 2 hours away because of his job, and I and my two sons live in my hometown (near my parents and grandparents). My husband is depressed and financially strapped because of our situation, and is telling me that I either must move over there with him or we need to get a divorce.

Of course I've been in tears over the whole decision. Leaving the school I love, the classmates I've befriended, and the chance to graduate 1-2 years earlier to move cross-state and have to re-apply, etc?

I guess maybe it shouldn't be such a tough decision, but I'm really having a hard time with it.

This gripe may have no place on this public bulletin board, but I just needed to vent and couldn't seem to find a friend... Thanks for reading. :)

Specializes in private duty/home health, med/surg.

I'm sorry you're going through such a tough situation.

He's been at this job for 9-10 months. He knew when he took this job that you were going to be attending nursing school this fall, correct? So why has he waited until now to put this ultimatum before--actually, between--you?

Another thing--2 hours isn't that terribly far away. If the job is so great, why isn't he commuting? Could the two of you compromose by finding a place halfway between where you go to school & his job?

I hope you can come to some sort of resolution where you stay in nursing school. From what you've posted, I feel like you'd regret it if you gave in and gave up on your schooling.

It's all about baby steps, you're making a wise decision to take it as it comes. Good luck to you and your family!

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