Questioning myself

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maybe it's the time of year and i am burned out, but please help me out here .

how you do treat the students when they come in with complaints. i am kind, and concerned but do not "gush" all over them with hugs and kisses. i assess them to the best of my professional ability. i am concerned and compassionate but do not play into their "illness" . i see many malingerers in the course of my day and sometimes it's hard to judge their complaints. often times, staff has made me feel like i am not caring or concerned. i am. but if i tear up and play into that "woe is me" feeling, then how can i be objective to the problems. anyone with ideas, suggestions ?? thanks for your constant friendships !

praiser :redbeathe

Specializes in School Nurse/Supervisor.

Praiser....OMG what a timely topic for me!!! I can't express more clearly then what has been said here! Sometimes I feel like I'm losing my mind....I've been in this boat many times!:mad: I feel you need to have the "tough love" thing going on. We all know when someone needs a little extra TLC and when somebody needs the tough love routine. I would like to think that I'm a compassionate nurse without all the coddling of the FF and worriers. But boy... it gets frustrating....when you get a student calmed down and staff members comes by and ohhs and ahhs over that student. I love my job ( I really do!!! :lol2::lol2:) but today has been one of those days when you question your sanity because a teacher does not like your assessement!!

Thanks for your post and letting me vent!!

coddling=bad ........genuine care that is appropriate for illness/injury=good.

teachers should be censored for coddling, does the child/children no favors.

basically it is ENABLING maladaptive behavior.

Specializes in Telemetry, Womens Health.

Hi there...I know this is a little late in responding but I felt compelled to give my thoughts.

I work in a wide variety of age ranges: K-3, Preschool and Middle School.

In the elementary level I do tend to be very nice, understanding, affectionate...I have found that most of the stomach aches just need a little TLC. I want all of my students to look to the nurse as someone they can go to when they are hurt, sick, bullied, or stressed. I don't want them to be afraid to come. (I have a health aide that the students are afraid of and reluctantly come to see her) Now don't get me wrong I am not a pushover, i use my assessment skills to really weed out the actual vs the "fake" complaints. I think someone above mentioned being firm..I agree but I always soften it with the little ones.

Middle School: Phew..they are a different breed than the K-3! I have to be very firm with them. They tend to try to influence me and manipulate. I am not affectionate with them at all. If I feel that they are faking or just want to go home I call their guidance counselor..that usually gets them back to class.

In summary I just think I am more suited to Elementary School children...

Cheers!

Melissa

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