Psych Folks, I desperately need your help. Crisis in my Home.

[LTCNS]

Long story short, I have a 30 year old son who had everything going for him, then lost everything over a year ago. Since then he has become increasingly depressed, refusing professional help. He hates my husband and holds a grudge against me for marrying him. There have been outbursts of screaming and threats, but no violence towards my husband or myself. He recently had to move back home and does not come out of the room, he sleeps all the time and has no motivation to get a job.

Fast forward to this morning. He came out of the room as I was getting ready for work and absolutely lost it. He called me a ****, a whore and a *****. He overturned the couch and kicked a huge hole in the wall of the foyer. He is angry because I haven't left my husband and gotten a place for he and I to live together. He absolutely hates me and said I chose a **** for my ***** over him. He's always been protective of me but now he hates me

I went to the courthouse and filed papers to have him committed because jail will not help him. He has issues that I cannot help him with. I love him and want him to get help but am now feeling horrible because he will be picked up Friday morning and taken to a treatment facility. Please tell me...Did I do the right thing? Or will it make him worse? What if they decide he is "okay" and don't keep him? Please help me. He probably won't even want me to visit him while he's there

[Molly Marine, RN]

You did the right thing. I had to do the same thing to a family member. Their circumstance was slightly different being a "war hero", but yes they broke & I had to intervene via involuntary commitment. They were mad at me & we had to work it out later after treatment. Five years later, they'll tell you, I saved their life.

[Kooky Korky, BSN, RN]

All that and the judge didn't sign his papers on Thursday. They were backlogged with emergency commitments and he was on the bottom of the pile. The next pick up is on Wednesday. I'm devastated. Because he hasn't hurt anyone he is not an emergency. I feel terrible knowing he could have been on his way yesterday if I had just pushed them.

Who would you have pushed?

Where is your son now? How is he? How are you?

Doesn't the Judge have to have signed within 48 or 72 hours of your son's commitment?

[wolf9653]

I had to do something similar to my brother a goodly number of years ago. He was delusional and hallucinating, and living with my mother who was on hospice care. Luckily, I didn't have to go through the courts. He stopped going to his probation officer. I called his probation officer, and explained the situation and she came right down with 2 cops and violated him. They took him to the hospital, detoxed him, got him on meds and into a year long program and a halfway house. He's doing OK now. I feel as guilty as hell, and it was very painful. But it was what he, and my mother needed, since the situation was unsafe for her.