I agree, but there are a lot of other reasons I am leaving after my residency is through. Not Nursing per se, but definitely the department I oriented to, the "hospital life" and the geographical area (see Chiro's response for this one)
NETY is alive and well, and I think everyone here knows it. Whether you PRACTICE it, that's not the issue. I had an exceptionally lengthy orientation, 6 months. After one month, it was clear that my preceptor was in it to get his CNIII and climb the ladder, nothing else. He set me loose and would literally leave the unit without saying a word (I'm ED), getting his co-workers to "watch over" me.
(80+ bed ED here, folks. just putting a little context out there)
When I was asking to get some trauma experience, which is what my preceptor was supposed to be teaching me---I LITERALLY was told (by preceptor) "Well, get in there!"
Oh. THAT'S all I had to do? Just "get in there"?! I know I truly would trust a trauma RN that had that kind of teaching under her belt!
How about a girl who graduated a cohort behind me, who had the CNIV come to her 2 days after she got off of precepting, he sat down, crossed his legs, and slid a piece of paper across the desk to her.
They had "studied" her first self schedule as a brand new "on your own" RN...and determined that she had not opted to take >2 days of OT per week....and on that slip of paper were the dates/shifts (some not her regular shift of 2p-2a) that THEY decided that she should take.
That same CNIV, who told me that I was not permitted to take any classes on my off time---even if they had everything to do with Nursing---because if I had "spare time", I should be using that towards chipping away at the short shifts in the dept.
And that is just an everyday run-down. The pay sucks. That's geographical, and I am doing something about that at 1 year. I don't get lunches or pee breaks (common), but I also don't ever get a single word of guidance.
Know why? Because the "senior RNs" feel that since I will "probably" be gone after a year, like all the others, they aren't investing in me fully.
It's not a marriage, folks. It's a job. Putting your "heart and soul" into training someone? That's nonsense. It's a job. If you are precepting by choice, then it's a job YOU signed up for. Do it. And act as if that person you are precepting may be taking care of your parents or your kids. If you are being tapped to precept against your will? Still do the best you can. Again...that RN may be in a position that they're taking care of YOUR loved ones.
It's a JOB. Not a popularity contest--your personal opinion of any other employee is irrelevant. If their skills are up to par, then you need to keep your "personal" opinions of them to yourself. That's where the "lateral violence" comes in.
One of my cohort made a simple mistake in putting a foley cath in a female pt and inserted the catheter into the wrong orifice. yeah wasn't that just hilarious? especially being the patient, i'll be she thought that was just so funny to have her hoo-haw out there for the senior RN to snicker at the new grad.....and then, not to be outdone by her disgusting behavior at bedside embarrassing the NG, senior RN goes and spreads the story around. Classless and gauche.
Oh, but dark humor! No. It's lateral violence, and it's showing your butt to the patients as well. I wouldn't EVER allow that RN, senior or not...to EVER touch one of my family or friends.
There's just no line with some RNs. Oh, but I'm senior and I'm having a bad day. Well, I'm an NG and I'm having a bad day. We're even. I don't get to act like a classless jerk, neither should you.
Respecting each other in the workplace isn't a function of how LONG you've been there. THAT is what NETY is all about. Senior RNs feeling that they have "earned the right" to act like jerks.
I wasn't told in nursing school that I would get a preceptor that sits on his phone all day while I do his pt load, and when I ask a patho question I get, LITERALLY, a dumb stare and a comment like, "i have no idea. i don't keep those things in my head." To complain to management....preceptor's longtime friends? LOL. Yeah. I'll do that.
Which is why I am of the Robert Downey Jr school of thought..."Listen, smile and agree...then do whatever the **** you were gonna do anyway." Which is learn what I can, read everything....and then bail. Go to someplace where the pay is 3x what I make now (same experience level)...there is a union that protects my rights and my pee breaks....and let the NETY senior nurses sit around and wonder "why oh why" the NGs aren't interested in staying.