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  1. Hangin'On,RN

    My nursing career has been a failure

    Well, I'd like to start off by saying that I'm not looking for pity because I have enough self pity everyday to cover it. But I want to share the story of my career, and how I feel it's been a personal failure, in hopes of helping someone else whose been in my shoes or had similar feelings. Okay. Where to begin? I guess I'll begin with nursing school. The next paragraph will all be a rundown of my career and its pitfalls, and why I regret my career decisions. I knew right away that nursing was not for me in nursing school. I could feel it in my gut. But what did I do? I kept right on going; passing tests, studying hard, and passing nursing school and then the NCLEX. Then I went to work at a hospital, which was your typical med/surg experience. I hated every second of it for 2 1/2 years, so I quit and went back to school for a different career that I thought I would love. Then got scared about layoffs in that career and job prospects, so I left and went to back to the hospital to a better floor. I liked it better, but not exactly my dream job. The first scare was when I was involved in a lawsuit with several staff members on the floor because I'd taken care of the patient one night (luckily it was settled). This was scary but not life changing. I worked that floor for about six years then transferred to another area within the hospital. I enjoyed this area, as much as I could enjoy nursing, but after a year I was fired in a mass firing with around 15+ people. I won unemployment, even though my former employer fought me every step of the way because it was determined I was not at fault. Then, I got a job as a school nurse and a few months in I was informed that my former employer (hospital) had turned my name, along with the others, into the board of nursing. That was an ordeal! In the end I had to hire an attorney, had to pay the board a few hundred dollar fine and do X amount of extra CEs in addition to the required 14. I kept the school nurse job for three years until we were all laid off. I ended up going back to school nursing last school year, but resigned at the end of the year due to too much stress and anxiety. Now, guess what? I'm enjoying my time off, minding my own business and Boom! There's another lawsuit that has named me and others from an incident from last year. No resolution to this yet. My career has been a complete failure. I am a failure. I have no self confidence left. After 15yrs in this field, I feel as if my youth was wasted on a career that wasn't for me. And never mind the Bachelors degree I have in another field because no potential employers care about it. I've tried multiple times to get jobs in other fields, but no luck. It's so easy to get pigeonholed once you're a nurse. I don't know if I'm simply unlucky or the universe is trying to knock me off this path by force. All I know is I'm done with nursing. I plan to let my license expire and maybe go back to school and try something else. I've been a nurse for 15 years. One and a half decades! And now, I'm a complete loser. Right now, my husband has a good job where I can take some time off and contemplate what I am going to do with the rest of my life. I have interests and passions, but I also have so much fear. I guess I'm writing this to urge others to listen to their guts. If you are in school or not very far into your nursing career and feel in your gut that it is not for you, then listen to yourself. Get out before the years pile on. You don't want to look back at your life and regret your entire career. I'm sorry for the negative post, but I had to share this.
  2. Hangin'On,RN

    Problems with nursing profession and why I want to quit

    I definitely feel the same about nursing that you do and have wanted a new career for many many years. I'm currently unemployed after being laid off from my school nursing job and have decided to just stay home for awhile. Based on my experience with applying to dozens and dozens of non-nursing jobs, once you have worked as a nurse, no one will hire you for anything else, especially if that is all you've done your whole adult life. They think you'll either quit because the money is too low or that you're crazy for even wanting leave nursing in the first place. I think getting a new degree is the only way I see out. Even though I have a B.S. in Psychology as well as an ASN it seems to mean nothing at all to the places I've applied for. I guess it's too old with no experience to back it up. You mentioned that nursing was a second degree for you, so could you use your other degree now? Do you have work experience in the past besides nursing related to your other degree? Maybe there's a cheaper community college near by with some good programs. You could always do student loans. That's what I'm thinking of doing, if I can get my husband on board with the idea! lol Then again, there are also paperwork nurse jobs like with insurance companies, hospitals, etc. I know I'm in no position to deal out advice considering I'm the opposite of a successful career change story, but I want you to know that I feel your frustration.
  3. Hangin'On,RN

    Those Overly Exaggerating Nursing Stories

    I definitely know the kind of articles you're talking about, and I roll my eyes at most of them too. Nursing is a highly romanticized profession and these kinds of articles are meant to get the emotional juices flowing. This is the same shtick the professors used in nursing school to boost our moral. It probably gives the non-nursing folks who read them a false sense of the profession though. However, nurses are underappreciated and we sometimes have to give ourselves a pat on the back because no one else will. Nurses know the realities, but I guess reading these articles can make nurses feel proud and valued, even if it's just for a moment. We could all use a little boost in moral and confidence every now and then.
  4. Hangin'On,RN

    Is this a matter for the State Board?

    I realize this post is close to a month old, but figured I'd thrown my two cents in anyways. Personally, I would go through the chain of command at the facility before contacting the board. This person could be innocent and you've sicked the board on them for nothing. Talk to this person's supervisors first about your concerns and if they don't investigate, then go to the person above them, and so on and so forth. They may drug test her first. I'm going to play the devil's advocate and say the "confused patient" could have really been confused because you said you didn't see them, so you don't know for sure. However, you do know that she took credit for your work, but that in itself didn't really harm anyone, even though it is really bizarre. I would assume you are not the only one to have noticed. Maybe some of your coworkers have witnessed strange behavior as well? I know all of this puts you in an uncomfortable position. Hopefully this matter will get resolved or has already been resolved.
  5. Hopefully six weeks will be enough, but I think that is a really short orientation for a new nurse. At the hospital I use to work at, orientation was 12 wks for new nurses. I left once for about 8 months after being there 2 1/2yrs and I still got a pretty decent orientation when I returned. Just try to make the most of it and learn everything you can. I agree that you should try to reeducate yourself as well. Books, articles, you tube videos, podcasts etc. can be great ways to review skills and much more. This may give you a boost of confidence before you start orientation. Since you won't start until October you'll have plenty of time for some education. Good luck!
  6. Hangin'On,RN

    Everyone is in NP school !

    It seems like a lot of the nurses I know have either graduated, are in, or are thinking about NP school. Apparently, it's the golden ticket! Here's a really interesting thing that recently happened where I live: My job as a school nurse (and all my fellow school nurses in my county) through the health dept. was cut, and we are being replaced by nurse practitioners employed by a local hospital. I'm not sure they are hiring enough for each school though, and the salary seems rather low for a NP. I've never heard of anything like this before. We're all a bit baffled by it.
  7. Hangin'On,RN

    Best nursing job for a returning to workforce mom

    To be honest, after being out for a decade, you are like a brand new nurse all over again and will probably have to start back to square one on a med-surg or other floor to gain experience first, at least part time. Most hospitals, I would assume, give a decent amount of orientation, and then after you get some experience you could start job searching. Maybe school nursing or a clinic position could be your end goal because the schedules are more what you are looking for. Some clinics will hire RNs without much experience. I guess it also depends on what the job market looks like in your area. If it's something you truly want to do again, just start applying for positions and see what happens. I wish you luck!
  8. Hangin'On,RN

    Really want to get out of nursing...

    I feel you, Zyprexa. I've felt for many years that nursing isn't for me. I just got laid off (school nurse for three years) and it's given me time to mull it over. Maybe going back to school is an option for you? I've thought about that as well. This may seem odd, but have you taken a Myers Briggs personalty test? I kept hearing about INFJ, ESTP, etc. personalities on book podcasts I listen too and had no clue what they were talking about. I just recently took one online and everything I've felt career wise for 13 years (plus 2 more for nursing school) totally makes sense now. Most of the good websites will describe your work personality and give you the top most common occupations for each career category and that could be a starting point. BUT actually finding a non-nursing job is going to be tough without either getting the right education or knowing the right people unless you have related experience. I've applied to various non-nursing jobs this summer, some I felt I was definitely qualified for, and no results. I think most employers see "nurse" on applications and toss them in the circular file, either because they think I'll want too much money or that I'll quit within a couple of weeks. Of course the town or city you live in can also play a role too. Nursing makes the most financial sense where I live and employers probably just think I'm nuts. So I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place, but I won't give up. If I do have to get another nursing job, I may go to school on the side. My advice is to figure out what you want to do and job search and research during your days off. It doesn't hurt to apply to a job that sounds like a good fit for you. There will more than likely be a pay cut to get your foot in the door, but if your gut says it's time to do something else, then listen to it.
  9. Hangin'On,RN

    If you could redo it....would you choose nursing?

    If I could go back, I would NOT choose nursing. I had no clue what I was getting into. I've had some good experiences over 13yrs and have also had some career blows that have made me seriously question my career. I tried to escape once, but didn't make it. Now, I sit here unemployed, trying to decide what path to take because after working as a school nurse for three years we were laid off due to the school nurse program loosing funding.
  10. Hangin'On,RN

    Glutton for Punishment?

    Don't you just love how people that aren't nurses know more about nursing careers than an actual nurse?! I know people like that who hear one little comment or read an article and think that it is "fact". It's very frustrating. But I definitely get that you were trying to educate them and get them to stop believing something that isn't true. Sounds like are a couple of uppity know-it-alls, to me.
  11. Hangin'On,RN

    Travel nurse without the travel?

    Thank you. That clears things up for me.
  12. Hangin'On,RN

    Travel nurse without the travel?

    I'm not too sure of how unique or common this situation is, but I figure someone out there may have experience with it. My question is, has anyone worked as a travel nurse in their own hometown in a hospital they are all ready familiar with? I was fired (was a mass firing) a few years ago from the local hospital, and even though a recruiter from there called me a couple months ago I just can't bring myself to work for them because I don't trust them. Since that time they have been using travel nurses. I've seen a lot of positions posted through travel nurse companies. I heard that some nurses had resigned from the hospital and then got hired by a travel company because the pay was better. I've been a school nurse since then, but all of the school nurses were laid off on the last day of school, so I'm jobless. I really want to stay local because other hospitals are about 40-45minutes away, but I may change my mind. I'm just at a loss at what to do. Also, as a travel nurse are you in communication with your company boss often? Can you be floated to other units? Do you get any orientation? If you like your position, do you just keep renewing your contract? Sorry for all the questions. I know little to nothing about travel nursing. Thanks in advance for any help or advice.
  13. Hangin'On,RN

    Starting nursing school at 37...

    I had several friends in their 40's and a few in their 50's when they went to nursing school. 37 is definitely not too old for a career change. Do not for one second be embarrassed, just be proud that you know what you want and are going for it. I bet there will be several people older than you in your class.
  14. Hangin'On,RN

    I Have A Name!

    I know where you are coming from. It seems like very few staff and faculty actually know my name or even remember me for that matter. I had a teacher who came to my office numerous times for different ailments last year, ask me the other day, "You're the nurse right?" I would have loved to have given a witty reply. Uh.....No. This year I'm a ninja!
  15. Hangin'On,RN

    Should I quit?

    I felt just like you when I first began in a hospital as a new grad. I was also on a telemetry floor but the ratio was more like 6-10:1 instead of 4:1, so do count yourself lucky there. However, floors like that can be stressful regardless of ratios and especially where you are a new nurse. I was constantly job searching for anything like secretary, store managers, etc., anything to get out of nursing, but I stayed on that floor for 2 1/2years. A lot of things have made me hate things about nursing, but those first years were some of the most miserable. I did quit once, but ended up going back to bedside on another unit that was much better. It might be in your best interest, career wise, to try to hold out for a year, then you can put in a transfer request to another area of your hospital that you feel would be better for you. It's so tough when you are miserable. There is light at the end of the tunnel, but sometimes it's very tiny and hard to see. You're over three months in, so only less than nine to go before you have one year experience and can try for something else. Or maybe some clinics might open up that don't require as much experience. Also, you could do some research and maybe connect with some of the people you graduated nursing school with to see where and what they are doing to give you some other ideas. Do not underestimate the power of networking. Think of an area or specialty that you would like, and if it's a non-beside position, then make that your goal. I do wish you a lot of luck!