I will do what every good hospital HR and Risk Management person will do who is trying to prevent a lawsuit. Tell you I am so sorry, listen to your complaint, thank you for bringing the problem to my attention, and then promise that somehow I will find an answer for you.
That's what happens now--on this forum and pretty much everywhere else that nurses go in order to express their frustration, anger, exhaustion, unhappiness.....etc. So sorry. Chin up. It'll get better if you just keep plugging along.
No. It won't, and it doesn't.
I am sorry that you are experiencing this----and this is not unusual in any way, shape or form. This is nursing.
First. Kooky Korky is absolutely, 100% correct---you ever have someone touch you without your permission---you make it your mission in life to have that person removed.
NO ONE. No. One. has the right to touch you without your permission. As any Nursing 101 instructor will drill into your head---YOU also have no right to touch a patient without their permission. This goes both ways.
See the thread that discusses the horrible incident of the OR Nurse that was fired for "workplace violence" for "redirecting" a colleague who was baiting her in a storage room by blocking her way.
She was in the wrong. I hate it, but that is the truth.
You never, ever let a colleague or anyone else in your life---touch you without your permission.
Second. Changing specialties isn't as hard as some here are trying to make it sound---unless you are shifting from, say, ER to OR or some super specialty.
If you have ER experience, and you do---with ridiculous ratios, which says to me that you have a keen sense for organization and time management to succeed even for a month in that environment---you pretty much can go to Med Surg or Tele or Outpatient without 16 weeks of intensive "relearning". That's hogwash that you can't switch without this horribly steep "learning curve" with acute/emergent care experience. I changed from ER to ICU---and the ICU RNs were all flabbergasted that it took me 6 weeks to literally toss a good number of them out of my patients' room because they wanted to "drive". Yeah, no. There are subtleties that occur in ICU that in the ER I would not have been able to take the time to note---but I sure as hell knew what to do for my patients. CRRT and those specialty procedures come in time---that isn't part of the initial "learning curve".
Third. Nobody. Nobody gets to tell you that you are stupid, worthless, incompetent or lazy. That is harassment clear and simple...and you should be documenting every single incident and turning that into HR. If HR doesn't do something about it---you lawyer up. You sue that hospital for harassment. You are not a punching bag.
I am so godda#ned sick and tired of these "senior nurses" who think that they can haze new nurses. I've kicked a few in the bits (figuratively) and I stand my ground.
Bullies are mentally unstable. There. I said it. I am sooooOOoooOOOOoooo sick of nurses who believe their s#it doesn't stink or that they have never made a mistake---bullying and crapping on new nurses, techs, other personnel---because they usually are the dumbest, most dangerous and the most mentally ill of the bunch. They drive normal, successful, intelligent and valuable employees away---because they are miserable, quasi-talented and below level intelligence---it's the only way they can feel good about themselves.
And that goes for anybody here that fits that bullying description. Don't give the the Bill Clinton defense---well, it depends on what your definition of bullying IS. Baloney. It's like pornography. We know it when we see it. Knock it off. If you wouldn't want it said to your mom or your husband or your kids---don't say it to another colleague.
Studying is not going to convince the "hazers" in the NICU or Mother Baby unit to stop acting like arseholes. Because this is who they are. Remember Maya Angelou---"When someone shows you who they are---believe them."
Nursing has degenerated into a core group that drive good people away---and good people who educate themselves the hell-o out of the bedside environment (this includes outpatient clinics).
You're doing the right thing---educate yourself out of this. It's the only way---you are too good of a person to hang around and be abused. However---you should cast a curse on your way out of these toxic units if you can---document all of it, turn it all into HR, and if the situation warrants it---turn them into the BON for workplace violence if they grab you, turn them in for ethics violations---and see a lawyer.
I'm all done with some nurses behaving as if they are immune to consequences. It's about time those of us who just want to come in and do our jobs---show those who decide that the job is for them to gossip, haze and bully---and that includes doctors---that this isn't going to fly and legal consequences will ensue.
Many here will immediately respond with---but you do that, and you will never work as a nurse again.
And.....this proves my point. If I hold you, acting like an arsehole and bullying and grabbing me and demeaning me, responsible for your behavior---you think I should be punished?
This is exactly why nursing has degenerated into what it is---it's the Mob Mentality. You snitch, you squeal---about how we're abusing you? You get squashed. We take away your ability to feed your family.
OP----you document, document, document. If it's legal in your state to record as a "single party"---meaning you can record conversations without the other party knowing--and there is no HIPAA information? You do it. You nail these people and make it known that this is not okay.
I would educate myself like you are doing----pull yourself up out of the muck.
Like the lotus---you will bloom out of standing on muck and mud. Don't let any of these people drag you into their drama.