I had a similar situation with another student in my nursing program. I knew the girl in high school, and she lived down the street from where I grew up. I will call her Beck. She was in one of my pre-reqs, along with her friend Gen. When we were in Micro she kind of snubbed me, and really didn't want to have much to do with me. They were both in my class in n.s. and the beggining was the same way. Beck asked if I wanted to carpool with her and Gen, and I accepted b/c money was running low, and gas was high. After a few weeks, we all started to become friends. One morning before clinicals, Beck didn't show up at the meeting spot or even call to tell us she was running late, not showing up, to go on w/o her, ect. (we met at a nearby gas station) Only, this wasn't the first time it happened. I cannot even remember a time she called us. We would call her, she would answer about the third call and sound asleep, and tell us she was sick. The final straw came, when she missed clinical a second time and she made up this elaborate story about being in a reck and dislocating her hip b/c a drunk driver hit her. Gen's husband is a police man and he looked up the incident, and found nothing. The next day of class, she came to school with crutches, the following day, with nothing, and the clinical with crutches. We KNEW she was a liar. Gen went to the clinical instructor and told her what all we've been dealing with. I stayed back. I didn't know whether to talk to the instructor or not, because I kept thinking maybe there was a small chance she wasn't lying. After this, Gen didn't ride with her anymore, but stupid me felt sorry for her. Everyone was staying away from her, including her best buddy Gen. So who do you think she became "obsessed" with? Yep, Me. She was so pushy, and I didn't ignore her, or be assertive like I should have been at first. I finally told her why Gen had been the way she was and confronted her about what we thought were lies, and about why she had missed so many days of school. She started crying and told me part of it was a lie, but not all. Her and Gen finally talked on the phone and she let it all out to Gen that it was a lie. Her and Gen never regained friendship. She just couldn't trust her. I felt like I was stuck in the middle. This all happened first semester. But, as a surprise to me and everyone else, Beck passed class and clinical. Second semester there were two classes again, and Gen along with everyone else I had been friends with was in the other class except for, you guessed it, Beck. I was stuck with her once again. Anyways...to make a long story short she pulled the same crap again in this class, but these teachers didn't put up with it. She failed class and clinical.
I'm sorry this was so long but,when I read your story, I thought about what i've been though over the past year. You need to squash it now, b/c I missed out on some great friendships and people and no one wanted to be around me b/c of all the drama she caused. I know n.s. isn't all about friends, but I enjoy the friends that I have made. It was told to me several times by other students that the teachers don't like her, and she has a bad rep, and you need to get away from her, b/c they will associate you with her, and make it hard on you. Do whatever you can to get away from her. Have a talk with her, and tell her how you feel, or try the assertive thing as other posters have suggested. N.S. is hard enought w/o all the drama. What do you have to loose? Trust me, no one else wants to be around her either, and she will realize that for her to have friends she must be a good friend and not take advantage of everyone. Hope this helps