Sorry, if I have offended. I'm not sure, it's a bit hard to determine via chat. However, I'm just concerned about the comment where 'people go to work 'looking for bullying'. I don't quite understand. However, I can see you point where someone might be oversensitive about getting words been told.
In my eyes, it's about mutual respect. It doesn't have to be sugar-coated, just professionally stated in a matter-of-fact way. People DO bully. If one is being nasty to someone else (and others), and constantly, that is is bullying... It's evident from hearsay and is included in countless literature pieces.
It does not have much to do with contructive criticism. However, if it is said in a way that is demeaning, humiliating, berating manner, and consistently. It is bullying. And, you're right, we all have the potential to bully one another no matter how sernior or junior. The thing that is intimidating is the fact that more experienced nurses have the oppportunity to practice their leadership skills and lead by example in a way that can be firm but fair, maybe even kind and gentle, depending on the person's mood recieving the feedback/criticism, but as long as its fair but firm. Not demeaning, disrespectful, dismissive, hopeless, or "arrogant" in nature, it's OK.
Bullying is real. A not so good leader can reduce the morale, seem intimidating, unapproachable, arrogant, lead to a decreased productivity, more sick days, higher staff turnover, and just an all time punishing experience for some staff, patients and families just because of someone's sucky ego. .
Eating their young may be a disrespectful term in itself, but don't take it personally. It's a figure of speech. And, in my eyes, it is a form of bullying which should be stamped out. People ARE NOT stupid, and deserve compassion, patience and due consideration at all times. OK, outside work, it's a different thing, it's a crazy world out there. Inside work, we are bound by laws and ethics and we are getting paid to be good to eachother, afterall we are supposed to be promoters of health. Indeed, being nasty to eachother (with absolute exclusion of feedback or constructive criticism - which we've all got to take and consider) is not health promotion; in fact, it can promote bad feelings, thoughts, behaviours, excessive stress and illness if the ward culture dares to feed off of it.
And I agree, we should see the best in people, no matter how senior, junior or role youre in. That's creativity, and creativity creates change and all those great things that come with that. Yay!
I guess sometimes it comes down to what sort of nurse we want to be. Not who we are in downtime, but at work.
To all reading this: What sort of nurse do you want to be?