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  1. CrazyCatNurse

    Home health pediatric...demanding parent tips??

    Well, things seem to have worked out. I was already doing books on tape! Great minds think alike. The family likes that. The mom gives me a bit of a break--I just try to look busier when she is around. I switched to saving my charting for when Mom is around. Seems to have (mostly!) done the trick--in addition to books on tape, singing, telling client what I'm going to do...etc. Thanks for all your advice and support!!
  2. CrazyCatNurse

    Home health pediatric...demanding parent tips??

    Talked to DON. Turns out they promised the family we would read/provide stimulation to the kid during down times. Great. There is no other case at this agency. I'm looking elsewhere, but what they're hiring for out here is LTC, case mngt, or nights. DON suggested I take breaks by going outside. This kid's head flops out of headrest in 5 minutes, and he randomly vomits and aspirates. No, I will not be going outside.
  3. CrazyCatNurse

    Help me with this situation

    Ok then. I was assuming a new young nurse like I was, not a life experienced confident and capable lady like yourself. That makes it better for you. Talk to NM, if that doesn't work, try and get out of there ASAP. Similar thing happened to my mom, second career nurse like yourself, on my mom's first job. NM didn't help. Mom got out of that floor/hospital as soon as she could--and she's enjoying nursing very much now.
  4. CrazyCatNurse

    Help me with this situation

    "Employ modesty in your actions"... It seems plain to me from the original post that she does employ modesty in her actions. She's trying to carefully figure out what's happening, and how to handle it, and she's being bullied. I feel your vague advice places blame on the original poster for the bullies' actions. I think "trying to understand" them and "perhaps they are displacing their stress" gives the bullies power to bully more and excuses their inexcusable actions. It is possible I misunderstand you, but having personally followed all of this advice--including the "pray for them" bit... And it seriously did not help. It wound up placing blame on myself. "Watch your tone of voice. Be careful what you say. Oh, she's having a hard time in life, that's why she refused to give you report." In trying to understand them, I excused their actions. I felt I deserved to be treated like dirt.
  5. CrazyCatNurse

    Help me with this situation

    Having experienced an incredible similar situation--my words were twisted, I was written up for everything and nothing, I was given positive feedback from all my preceptors then 5 weeks into work on floor they had a 4 nurses plus me meeting and gave me a half-inch stack of write ups--read them to me. Then while I was weeping from shock and shame (I believed their opinion of me must be right.), the Director of Nursing told me "This is nothing personal, but your hair looks greasy unkempt and unprofessional." I was told I "had attitude", but never what exactly made them think I had attitude. A preceptor insisted "I will not work with you on this." My questions were never answered. I was given vague advice like "be careful what you sound like" and "you don't see the big picture". Anything I told anyone came back to bite me later. I became physically ill--throwing up, weeping. I believed I was an incapable nurse. It was an understaffed floor, and allegedly self scheduled. They scheduled me on days I had other plans. My vacation days. My church worship days. Things I had asked off. I wasn't allowed to get off on these days, and when I reported the situation to a higher up nurse, I was confronted by the scheduler herself. "You're trying to make me look bad!" she said. Seriously, all the higher nurses had it in for me and it went all the way to the top. I was always being escorted to the DON office, and scolded. For having attitude, charting too accurately, not charting enough, and of course having attitude and then for crying in the office. I stuck it out for a year on that floor. It still messes with my head nine years later. I fight fear and tears whenever a supervisor talks to me in their office. My advice for you would be to get out of that situation as soon as possible. Confide to no one. Document every single incident in your own notebook. Keep your head down, your mouth shut, get your paycheck and experience and leave that floor as soon as possible. Of course, it's possible that the head nurse isn't part of the corruption. I'd be quiet and watch for before talking to her/him. See if you can figure it out. I'm glad that you can recognize that you are being bullied. It won't mess with your head so much if you're aware of what's going on. Oh. And don't apologize to her for her alleged perception of you. Unless its along the lines of "I am sorry that you feel/think/believe this way..." That way you're being assertive.
  6. I am full time on a home health pediatric case. It's physically demanding--there are frequent dirty diapers and the kid weighs 150 pounds or so. So it's transfer him to bed, change him, back to wheelchair--five times in five hours yesterday. Anyways, the family expects the nurses to be always interacting with their child. I understand their point of view--they want maximum stimulation with this child so hopefully the comatose state goes away. But they want me massaging, doing range of motion, talking, reading to, rubbing the head of, singing to, stretching...something all the time. For 12 hrs. Yes, they let me eat and have bathroom breaks but that's about it. I'd just transferred the patient to bed, undressed him, inserted suppository, started tube feeding, put splints on feet... And I sat down and was catching my breath. Mom comes in with a fat stack of papers for me to read to her kid, "instead of sitting idle" because "nurse so and so would do this!" she cheerily suggested. She demanded my cell number. She didn't even ask if I was comfortable with it. Since she will get it anyway--I'll have to call her on my cell sometime, I gave it to her. And I read to her kid. I don't want to tick her off, but I can't do this all day. I feel the family has unreasonable expectations; plus I'm not good at one-sided conversations. And my throat gets sore talking so much. How can I tactfully set boundaries and appropriate expectations?
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