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  1. Stanford Rape

    1sttime replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    A fan of the outrage is absolutely contributing to victim/survivor culture. Edit- I am not even saying this is a bad thing, it is a phenomenon that is happening that has real power. We should be aware...

  2. Stanford Rape

    1sttime replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    The conversation had been a reinforcement of one narrative. I know what I am saying is a foreign concept, but it is my truth, and the truth of other people who are afraid to voice their opinion. Why...

  3. Stanford Rape

    1sttime replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    She seemed to be doing ok until she read about the account in the paper.... I didn't say being unconscious makes on less of a victim... there are just circumstances that put this (these things)in a...

  4. Stanford Rape

    1sttime replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    But you use the term survivor, which is meant to empower yourself in the situation. I empower myself in a different way, because I choose to interpret the circumstance I was in as under my control,...

  5. Stanford Rape

    1sttime replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    Oh good- as per usual request is made for different perspectives- only one narrative is acceptable. Actually I am being "mansplained" to in the sense that all other posters seem to know more than I do...

  6. Stanford Rape

    1sttime replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    There are distinctions- this whole thing with the tea consent is part of the equation is that both people are drunk on tea- The victim in this Stanford case found out she was a victim in the...

  7. Stanford Rape

    1sttime replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    There is a sense of empowerment when you join others as a "victim" or a "survivor"... we change the language to empower. Cancer victim... cancer survivor... etc... So using the car analogy- -Would...

  8. Stanford Rape

    1sttime replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    Here is the Merriam Webster Definition: "unlawful sexual activity and usually sexual intercourse carried out forcibly or under threat of injury against the will usually of a female or with a person...

  9. Stanford Rape

    1sttime replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    I know OP asked other people how they feel, this is how I feel. This is something I would never share in public, as there is such a culture of empowerment through victimhood... As a gay man I can...

  10. Stanford Rape

    1sttime replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    I'm sure I know someone like this, and was woken up one night by him. I said stop and never got drunk with him

  11. Stanford Rape

    1sttime replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    Like I said, I have a very different perspective... It was a bad decision to put myself in that situation- I did get myself drunk/high of my own free will. The ability to give informed consent wasn't...

  12. What would you do if you knew someone was actively using

    1sttime replied to run.for.the.roses's topic in Nurses Recovery

    I wish someone had pulled me aside and told me to quit right that minute... I got caught, the pieces are about picked up, I am better for it... Some people need to be "caught", some people can bow out...

  13. Stanford Rape

    1sttime replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    I have a very different perspective- I am a gay man- there are many times when I was high or drunk, and was in a situation I would not otherwise be in... I never thought to call it rape, or a...

  14. HIPAA and Demanding Family Members

    1sttime replied to Taiin's topic in HIPAA Challenges

    Yes, it would appear the OP was talking about facility policy. In the 4th paragraph OP states "I don't think I am in the wrong, by not violating HIPAA." Also another senior moderator "Moved to the...

  15. HIPAA and Demanding Family Members

    1sttime replied to Taiin's topic in HIPAA Challenges

    Does anyone actually know HIPAA? It is not against the federal policy to disclose patient location, including if they are moved to another facility or unit. You can also give a general condition of...

  16. API questions

    1sttime replied to Rosa09's topic in Nurses Recovery

    This is horrible, but it is not the end of the road. You made a mistake, you are human- the only thing to do now is to go step by step through the process. Its going to be difficult as you have to...

  17. Positive Test on Probation

    1sttime replied to DaisyRN2003's topic in Nurses Recovery

    1:1 counseling is just individual counseling. I told the board I would re-engage in treatment. I had another substance abuse assessment and the provider recommended that I continue working as part of...

  18. Positive Test on Probation

    1sttime replied to DaisyRN2003's topic in Nurses Recovery

    Sounds like you had a slip up- I did with something much more illegal 2 years into probation- I wrote my letter to the BON taking full responsibility and re-engaged with 1:1 counseling. Got a letter...

  19. Im sad. Think I tested positive for alcohol

    1sttime replied to daout's topic in Nurses Recovery

    You are human- this will be a blip on the radar- don't beat yourself up. Just take the steps to recognize the problem, and then learn how to handle the problem. The experience with the BON won't be...

  20. NP after in treatment?

    1sttime replied to summerly's topic in Nurses Recovery

    Here is how it worked with me- I didn't have a problem until I did- and I did cross that line. Then the board asked me to voluntarily release my medical records... Now I didn't have anything to...

  21. inpatient treatment??

    1sttime replied to kmph2012's topic in Nurses Recovery

    I will add that this is true- try to do your evaluation with someone affiliated with outpatient only treatment. In my state at least you can waste money with the independent third party- only to be...

  22. terminated RN

    1sttime replied to har14's topic in Nurses Recovery

    There are thousands of us out here- My board of nursing uses a matrix of mitigating (good) and aggravating (bad) circumstances. Reporting to the board before getting caught is the most mitigating,...

  23. That dreaded question...

    1sttime replied to jdub6's topic in Nurses Recovery

    Thats none of their business- this is a health problem. Its basically asking a question like "Have you ever had an STD"... The question isn't asked out of caring- its a risk management technique, and...

  24. Please help, i'm not alone

    1sttime replied to jennybkind's topic in Nurses Recovery

    It is unethical to both diagnose and treat in this instance- I was also recommended to a higher level of care by an organization that had financial ties to treatment. I was luckily able to get a...

  25. Unencumbered license to practice on applications...legal?

    1sttime replied to glass_houseRN's topic in Nurses Recovery

    To me your license is not encumbered. Here is the definition: restrict or burden (someone or something) in such a way that free action or movement is difficult." You can do anything another nurse can...