LKWashington is right. In my opinion, no matter what the situation is, you will always think of things you should have done, or would have done, or could have done differently... Talking to fellow coworkers will help you, and will show you that you are not alone. Sometimes, avoidance is my first choice of coping. I (TRY) to always find the positive in things. For instance, there was a very young girl who committed suicide. She was brought into the hospital, but was found to be brain-dead. The whole family was here. Even though I didn't have actual interaction with the patient, I felt very emotionally overwhelmed about them and their situation. She was pronounced dead, (get ready for the POSITIVE) almost ALL of her organs were harvested and donated to those in need of them! That helps with coping... for me anyway.