Family choice, and as we all know, patients and families make ridiculous requests all the time. Your recourse is to accept these people are going to say silly, annoying, and outright insulting things throughout your nursing career. Rarely anymore do I meet actual nice people who are unfortunately ill and appreciative of their care.
I'm a white male nurse. What I've come up against most often is the family who wants a female nurse or a Spanish nurse because mama would feel more at ease. They miss out on very good nursing care from yours truly though, as they come out of the room repeatedly asking me where their nurse is. Well she's either visiting her friends in the other unit or having the potluck.
Not gloating, but obviously there will be ageism, sexism, racism, any other -ism. You gotta let go of society's pinpricks and accept patients and families are by and large very maladjusted people who only see themselves. If nursing is better than that then I haven't really seen it.