First things first...3.5 years of sobriety!!!!! That alone is a WONDERFUL feat.
For what it's worth, I don't know what state you are in, but in June, I had to go before the BON in Florida.
It was nerve wracking...but worked out ok.
I was there for about six hours and heard everything you could think of...the good news was, many, many people who had been suspended got reinstated.
I was not there to ask for reinstatement...it was another matter, closely related, and I was there to beg that they not take my license (over something that happened 9 years ago in another state)...they didn't...:) and I have to say, I did not at any time feel like they were looking down at me....I know that is hard to believe, but true.
I was honest and earnest....and they were fair.
SO, go ahead and appear...DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL ANY SHAME...
it's over...you are WINNING....for 3 and 1/2 years.
I think that they actually appreciate that .
THe people who did not fair so well, were the one's with excuses and who tried to BS their way through it. The BON saw right through that.
So....GOOD LUCK...let me know where you are and when you have to appear.
GO for it, it will be ok.