When I myself was hospitalized last year I had a nurse who I would describe as frazzled. She had unruly haphazard hair. It looked like it had been up and was partially falling and she had a pen stuck in it. When she came in she went right to it hanging iv but never stopped to talk to me or answer questions about my meds or why a test was being done. She came in to give me a medicine that the cardiologist had just changed the type. When I asked her what she was giving me, and it was the old medication, I tried to tell her the dr had changed it when he came to see me. She argued with me and said well this is on the chart so this is what you will take. I firmly said," no, you can give it but I won't be taking it- go look at my chart again." she huffed out. She was disorganized, lack bedside manner, couldn't answer questions and looked frazzled.
While our society can hyper focus on how one looks, we must remember that before we open our mouths, we r being critiqued and judged on our appearance. For example, if I see a person with horribly scuffed and dirty shoes, this reflects says a lot to me about that person. If you come over to my house covered in cat hair it says something. If you a growing a full mustache and you are a woman, I am sorry it says something. If you are rapidly jumping from topic to topic with nary a breath in between, it says something. If your nails r dirty and full of hang nails, it says something. If you r wearing flip flops and your heels are so crusty and your nails r yellow it says something. If you come in with neat hair, clean nails, clean clothes and shoes, a calm clear manner in speaking well that clearly says something as well. If your medical supplies r organized on your person it says something. I am ready to listen and I feel confident in your care. Self examination is important but it doesn't mean I care what others think of my personal appearance. If I am in a position of authority, such as a nurse or educator, I know that taking note of these things gives others a feeling of confidence in what I am about to say or do. My actions and words then support this. Does this make sense? It is the same about my home, b4 you come over, I have made sure every toilet and bathroom is eat off the floor worthy. I notice the details. Ok, I have gone on and on enough. You get the point! :) self examine and make changes where needed! You do not want that to be others perception of you! By you saying you r fine means you haven't self examined! One person saying something can be overlooked, many people saying it means you should take note and make change. Keep in mind for every person that says something there are many, many more that haven't. Good luck!