Well, it sounds as if your life is at least somewhat portable. So that is good. So, if you can leave go find the perfect job for you. The one that leaves you excited to go to work each day, the hospital that will pay for your BSN or masters . . . . I use to live in CA, I was born there. Sometimes it is hard for people to conceptualize anything but the coastal areas of the US but there are some wonderful places in the US far more beautiful than CA.
Don't write off places like Cinncinatti or Chicago or DC area, as much as I dislike Texas I feel there are some great places to work there. My goodness, just yesterday I was reading about a rural midwife program in West Virginia that I thought sounded like a real life.
My daughter will begin an ABSN this year and I think she will be facing the same market as you are facing now. I advise her just as I advise you, build the best career possible and a happy satisfying life follows. Nursing school was one tough nut to crack for all of us but it made us better human beings, stronger in every way. I think you will agree with me, relocation is far easier than nursing school.