even when she was given a list of her shortcomings (and they were her shortcomings, not everyone else's) to sign, she didn't get it.
did anyone happen to give her a list of what she was doing well at? you attract more bees with honey than you do with vinegar. somewhere along the way, nurses in this role need to realize that to only point out shortcomings deflates the learning ability of everyone. additionally, if one's shortcomings are pointed out after they are told that they excel in other areas, it becomes a positive experience, not a negative one.
she admitted to my orientee that she never studied at home, and my orientee suggested to her that she might want to start doing so.
that is second hand knowledge. are you sure this actually happened? maybe you should not have been speaking with your orientee about the other - this is unfair and typical in the nursing industry.
however, there are times when it's not the preceptor, it's the orientee. and sometimes, that orientee just doesn't get it no matter what hoops you jump through to try to help her get it, or to make her understand what the problem is.
all people learn differently. if we were all the same - wow the world would be boring. i am in no way defending the new grad or her "mistakes" but if people are talking about her/him behind the back - well maybe there is justification for her reaction. i have seen one too many times, new grads be the subject of sneers and snickers instead of supportive environments. every teacher, every nurse, every manager should be forced to read the book of why nurses eat their young.
i think there are probably a lot of "sals" out there . . . and i hope maybe i've convinced one or two of them to take a look at what they're doing or not doing to contribute to their problems before it's too late for them.
i agree, there are a lot of new grads who fall below the average knowledge base. but there are also a lot of 20 to 30 year experienced nurses who fall below this level too. let's all be fair in judgment - not every nursing student will become a "good" nurse, some will just "nurse", but we must give justice to our profession by teaching with positive roles and positive approaches to learning, not negative. if i had been in the role of her teacher, i would have said, let's review what occurred with patient a - and then maybe given some journal information or textbook information and said, i would like to test you on this next week on our lunch break because it is important to under stand the "why", then treat him/her to lunch while you review the information.