THIS! I worked 3 12's and with kids I found it impossible! I know most nurses are a fan of the 12 hour shifts, but it was brutal for me and my husband. I found myself not seeing my kids for 3 days a week, and that was not acceptable! Also, it was hard on my marriage to be gone every other weekend and leave the kids home with dad (who works hard during the week and now stuck with kids and no help on the weekends). I asked a lot of people before I switched to 5 8's and all my nursing friends would tell me that 3 12's are the way to go, you get so much time off with your kids, yada yada yada. But, in reality, I was so burnt out from those 3 shifts and the weekends were killer on me. I thought it would be better for my kids to be in daycare and have a SANE mother and a healthy marriage. Best decision I ever made!! I switched to the OR where I took call one weekend a month, which was fine with me! Getting weekends free and being able to be home EVERY night for my kids made such a difference in my attitude and mental health! I say, try 5 8's! Thats the best thing about nursing, you can switch around till you find something you like! Don't stay in a job that you hate...its not worth it!