I am entering my 3rd semester of an ADN program. I am a single mom of 3 children (ages 14, 12, and 7). So far my family life has been a little chaotic while I've been in school, so I am wondering what works for some of you. I am also working 2 part-time jobs (12 hours per week each, more during school breaks). I've been so busy with school and studying and work that I haven't had as much time as I would like to be a mom to them. I know that it is vital for me to complete school though. I told them that in less than a year, I will be finished with school, and I will be able to work 1 job and then be a mom when I am home instead of having my nose in a book the whole time. They understand that and are encouraging to me about it.
What routines or chore arrangements work well for you? I have told my older 2 that I will need them to help around the house more, and they are agreeable to it. I am going to try to have all 3 pick out their clothes the night before and tidy their rooms every evening. I'm considering alternating weeks for the older 2 with one cleaning the kitchen with the other cleaning the bathroom, tidying the living room, and dusting and vacuuming. Of course, I will be helping out also and not just expecting them to do everything, lol. I'm going to have my youngest pitching in too. He has Asperger's syndrome (high functioning form of autism), so it's a little challenging.
Bedtime for all 3 has been not going so well. For the past 2 years, I've been working through the week until 9 PM, so often we wouldn't get home until 10 PM. (I had been working around 50-60 hours per week between 2 jobs + going to school full-time). Then they were so glad to see me that they would understandably want to talk with me and so forth instead of getting ready for bed. It was not unusual for them to take an hour or longer to settle down and go to sleep. Then I would need to stay up until 1 or 2 AM or sometimes even 4 AM to get my studying done. (Once I didn't get to sleep at all). This semester, I will probably be home by 4:30 PM through the week and 8 PM on Saturdays. I know I will have to spend a significant time studying, but I am also looking forward to eating dinner with them, listening to them about how their day went and whatever is on their minds, and attending special school functions with them. Hopefully, they will be more ready to settle down and get to sleep at a more appropriate time. This will help them be rested for their school, and I will hopefully be able to finish my studying and get in bed a little earlier myself too, although I have heard that 3rd semester will keep you up all night.
Please feel free to offer suggestions about what you find that works for you and your family. I really want to do a great job with everything I have to do, including being a mom.