My husband used to call me a professional student because after 10 yrs out of RN school I went back to school for my BSN, graduated and 2 yrs later went back for my MSN. He stuck by me through all of that schooling, even postponed our engagement until after I graduated with my RN. Nursing school is very hard and demanding. We all have the best intentions when we start to NOT neglect our families, but as the pressures to succeed in school and pass quizzes, tests, and clinical increases we become so focused on passing that unfortunately our families are kind of left in the dust. School is very intense 2-4 years, and as you go on with your education it can be an additional 2-6 yrs per degree. The information is giving to you, some in great detail some not so much, and you need to figure out how to fill in the blanks. After he has had a couple quizzes and tests he will become acclimated to how the instructors ask questions and what they are looking for. The first month is a busy time learning information and procedures that need to be "perfected" before he can go onto the clinical area. As a nursing clinical instructor, as occ classroom instructor, I can tell you the requirements to pass clinical are just as strenuous as passing the didactic portion of the program! Hopefully when he gets to the clinical area he will have an instructor that will help as well as challenge him. The information given in the classroom has been so compacted in a very short period of time, that the student has to look/read the textbook. I have some questions for you. What is your husbands class load? Is he full time or part time? Has he done all of the pre-requisites or is he trying to do them with the nursing courses? While he is studying from one book, look at one of the other ones along with the syllabus and make note cards to quiz him and help him learn. If your children are in school, try to do homework at the same time so that the family is together. He is setting an example for your children by going to school, studying, and trying to get good grades. When they look at what he is going through, they see him struggling like they are to learn something new. Get your date night/family night during school breaks...spring, summer, thanksgiving, christmas. Yes it's hard but look at the reward at the end. 2 yrs seem like a life time when just starting school, but the time does fly...many of my students have said the time flies too quickly and they can't believe they are graduating and becoming responsible for another persons' life without the instructor to "help/bail them out." My students have said that just having their family there by their side through school is what kept them sane, also having a study group helps too. Offer the use of your house for your husband to have a study group, and be the one to ask questions and see if they can get the right answer. I have used my clinical and post conference time to quiz the students jeopardy fashion, I also ask my questions to make them think outside of the box...to see the big picture.
Hope this helps.