Did the institution you diverted from press charges? Have you been convicted of a crime? What kind of issues have you had getting a job...I mean what are the potential employers stating as the reason for not hiring you? If there have been no actions against your license than I don't see how any employer could know that you diverted.
I know a nurse who quit PNAP and then later decided to go through the program. She was able to sign another contract but had to start all over again, including going to rehab again, IOP, nurses group, everything. To be honest I don't know if she was able to do the VRP or if she was in the DMU the second time around. Did you have other issues while you were in PHMP? I'm not sure what you mean when you say that PHMP closed your case. It seems odd that they would close your case just because you missed a meeting.
You can be sure that if you don't contact someone from PNAP, your license will be suspended. Sometimes it takes a while, but it will happen. I also advise keeping copies of everything you send in and keep a record of every conversation and/or email you have between yourself and your case manager. Stuff gets lost on occasion and they take NO excuses.
If you want to keep your nursing license, realize that it's their way or the highway. I successfully completed with PNAP in October of 2013 and would be happy to answer any questions you might have. Keep us posted and good luck with whatever you decide to do.