I have been an NICU nurse in a large referral center for 4+ years. I do not yet have any children of my own, so I have no personal birthing experience and know that my opinions are limited by this. Obviously, though, given the nature of our job, I have developed some opinions about childbirth. I would say that I generally lean towards supporting/encouraging more natural birthing methods, but DEFINITELY in the hospital setting with the appropriate equipment and personnel available for emergencies. In fact, because of things I have seen, I'd be hard pressed to not deliver in a large hospital with a good NICU. I'm not criticizing small hospitals. I just have seen too many births end in unexpected nightmares, and I want all hands on deck so I don't have to be the anxious NICU nurse freak in labor. :)
I have lots and lots of friends in the childbearing stages of life, and more than a few of them veer toward the end of refusing interventions that are probably helpful/necessary and/or homebirths. I am NOT looking for a debate on birth interventions or home births. I know what the research says, and we don't need to rehash it. I know that there are many NICU nurses out there with similar viewpoints about the reality of birthing, both good and bad. If you have friends/acquaintances who are choosing home births, do you share any of your feelings? If they ask your opinions, what do you say? Honestly, I know that my friends who make those decisions don't make them lightly. They have done their research and feel they are making the best decision for their family. I want to respect them and their decisions, but I worry about the 1 in 10000 type of things. Plus, I find that if I tell them I'm worried about the "What ifs?," then they ask me more about them. And then there's that fine line of telling people what I mean without pouring out a horrible list of things that can happen to babies and moms. Because I'm not looking to give people nightmares or anything. I don't want to force my opinions on my friends, but I love and care about them. And given my profession, my opinion gets asked a lot.
So...what do you say?
p.s. Just once more, please don't make this a home birth debate. If you disagree with me, I respect that. However, that is not the question I'm asking here.