General overview from my experience.
depakote = wonderful
antidepressants = more manic rage and even possible suicide attempts.
dont address drug or alcohol use until proper meds are established
Never say calm down just listen and dont get sucked in no matter what they say, I love you or a hug Can and does go along way if timed right.
A manic episode can start from something you cant even comprehend and may not be from today or even something you did.
Being the spouse of a Bi-Polar person you really have to arm yourself. No matter how emotionally strong you are if you don't understand what is really happening your gonna lose.
Reading blogs posted by bipolar people are way more insightful than the normal medical definition with symptoms
"The propblem with this illness is it makes you feel good, so good that you often forget you were recently feeling bad. When I feel better, I usually can't remember how bad I felt, or how long ago it was, even if it was just yesterday. I know it's often like this for others."
"There are emotions, then there are "emotions". When I'm happy, sad or angry I'm fine, but when its a bipolar happy, sad or angry its a different story. The emotions cut deeply. I can no longer just feel the emotion and process. I become of the emotion. The boundaries of feelings and being become very hazy. I try to feel, process and release, but when the emotions are the bipolar ones they are so inseperable from my sense of being that ending my life becomes the only way my mind can understand releasing them."
I know there are better blogs I just cant remember them at the moment.