I would like to share my experience with my preceptor my first nursing job out of school. I experienced a combination of bullying but I also did not get off to a good start either with my behavior which I think exacerbated my being bullied. I was a star in nursing school. I worked as a nurse extern all throughout school. My clinical practicum was in the specialty I ended getting a job in when I graduated. I came in confident. My preceptor and I butted heads from the start. Some of it was on her but in retrospect a lot of it was on me. I heard the same comment from her that you received, I was not paying attention and looking at her when she was trying to tell me something. I thought I was doing the same thing you did- listening while I was multitasking. I was trying hard to act confident but it came across like I was not listening. I was trying to show her what I knew, she interpreted it like I was arrogant and unwilling to learn. She would tell me things I knew and instead of keeping my mouth shut, I would cut her off and tell her I knew already what she was telling me. She eventually told me the same thing your preceptor did. I need you to look at me and LISTEN. Looking back on it as a mature nurse 20 + years later. She was RIGHT.
Now on the other hand, the staff (because I was having personality conflicts with their star preceptor) took it SO far to knock me off my pedestal and take me down to a lower level. They did everything they could to humiliate me, talk about me, not help me, set me up for failure etc. I ended up leaving after a year and half after getting a serious right up questioning how I handled a specific patient situation. Caveat was, as I was navigating it, I was reviewing it with the charge nurse every step of the way. I thought I handled it well because I listened to what she told me to do and she knew everything that I did. Unfortunately I pissed off a resident and he reported me. Because of my earlier trouble, the charge nurse, when asked, lied and denied I ever asked for advice. I had no one stick up for me. I ended up being told I was not cut out to be a nurse at all. They were going to let me stay on (? really even though they did not think I should be a nurse?) but if I made ANY kind of mistake, they would fire me. They also would not let me transfer to anywhere else in the hospital. Luckily I found a job quickly after a few days outside of the hospital system and left.
I ended up having a very successful career and now been a PNP for 15 years.
Who knows how I would have done if I came in with the right attitude. How I ended up being treated was reprehensible and almost made me quit a career I loved. It did a lot of things to my psyche and confidence that still haunts me. That does not eliminate my culpability in the beginning of it. I am not saying that how I was treated in the end was right, it absolutely was not. But in the beginning, I can honestly say I was wrong.
You may be being bullied like I was in the end or your preceptor may have a valid point (like mine did initially).
When you are on orientation, best thing to do is keep your ears open, mouth shut and just listen to what you are being told. You may, in your head, be thinking I KNOW all this, but just listen. Now if you are ASKED if you know something, that is the opportunity to show your knowledge. NOT when your preceptor is trying to tell you something.
Best of luck!