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Ariko has 6 years experience and specializes in Med-Surg, free clinic.

I carry the rare and wonderful Y chromosome.

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  1. Ariko

    Curious female here! :)

    Nursing was not an option for men when I was an undergraduate. ('66-'70)
  2. Ariko

    Does Nursing change your personality and etc.

    1) [color=#548dd4]my main concern is the like-li-hood of bringing the stresses from your job into your personal-relationships and home life. do you male nurses honestly see this as a problem and possible issue in your life? the ability to deal with stress is an issue in all jobs and learning to deal with it in a positive way is a real accomplishment in maturing. nursing is full of stress, but fortunately, there are so many types of nursing and venues for practice that you can always move around to find a good fit for yourself. you will have limited options for the first couple of years, but then it is wide open. 2)[color=#548dd4] another question is do you find your personality as "warped" after being a nurse. basically, did the job change who you were prior to nursing school? my personality is far less warped than before. the job changed me in lots of ways for the best and i can think of no drawbacks at the moment, aside from moving obese women with my bad back. 3) [color=#548dd4]i am just hoping that my care for others won't make me obsessed with "caring" for others outside the setting, and convert me into a "pushover" when looking for a women/partner in my dating life. don’t lose sleep over that. 4) [color=#548dd4]women like "bad, risky guys," and i want to be able to separate my job mentality from the dating one. some women like bad risky guys. you are probably not interested in that kind of women. it is my experience, and that of my son, that women looking for a future mate and father for their children are very selective. if the woman in question is attracted to the flashy bad guys, leave her be. you can easily do better. most, if not all women i have met, genuinely admire male nurses. including mds.
  3. Ariko

    Underarm Sweating

    Here ya go. http://www.advantagewear.com/
  4. Ariko

    Need recommendation for compression stockings for men

    http://www.supportplus.com/ They have knee high socks that look like athletic socks. They come in a variety of compression strengths. For work I use firm for work and moderate for everyplace else. Good luck. http://www.supportplus.com/cgi-bin/hazel.cgi?action=DETAIL&ITEM=FB0862
  5. Ariko

    If you could do it all over again, would you?

    A thousand time YES! ! ! But many years earlier. When I was in college (66 - 70), they did not admit men to nursing schools, at least in Oregon.
  6. Ariko

    married to MD

    Hello, I am an RN married to an MD; my wife is faculty at a medical school. I got my RN at 54, after being a house husband for the previous 10 years. I quit my job as a research assistant at a university in Boston to take care of two kids who were 5 and 9 at the time. Two careers and kids means that it is the kids that suffer. She made more money, so I quit. On my résumé I said that I was a "domestic resource coordinator" which got some laughs and others actually liked it. I started a NP program when the youngest started HS, but could not finish it as we relocated to the West Coast when I was only part way thought the program. Your question has several aspects. Being a male nurse has its own group of issues, often complex, and these are discussed on this forum. Being married to an MD has its own set of very different issues, which are discussed on this site too. (I recall that there is a book written for wives of MDs, which I have not read. It is probably outdated anyway.) You are both, so get ready for a lot of problem solving. This is not bad necessarily, but it is a lot of work. First overwhelming issue is the fact that most MDs work 70 hrs / wk often more. Then there is call, out-of-town conferences, department dinners, etc. Even without kids, who is going to get groceries, balance the check book, let the serviceman in to fix the washer, get the car inspected, to the taxes, etc????? If you plan to have a semi-normal existence, you have to look the reality of a spouse who works that much. Medical school and residency are killers. You will have to be the person to keep the house running smoothly and provide emotional stability for your wife. The importance of this cannot be overstated. Working part-time is one obvious solution. With kids, the time crunch triples. I will mention one of the "spouse-MD" issues as related to my working as a nurse. When the other nurses found out about my wife, they often asked "Why do you work?" They never actually discussed it with me, but I would often hear from the patients that other nurses told them my wife was a doc. I think being a male nurse is great, but others usually view it as odd. Working as a nurse just because I love it is even more weird. PM me if you like. We can talk on the phone too.
  7. Ariko

    What are the pros and cons of being all male nurse

    I was just getting used to "stud muffin." Now it's "fleshy forklift". I need to rest. :yeah:
  8. Ariko

    Are you a nurse from a dysfunctional family?

    The colon cancer that Ms. B has continues to advance.( see post #108 above) It is difficult to express to her how I feel, but last week at a meditation retreat, the following popped into my head. I have been struggling with what to say to her for weeks. This seems to get at the point I want to make. I sent it to her a couple of days ago. She still feels the abuse was her fault and has no desire to distance herself from it. She says it was "the hand she was dealt." "Print and post on your bathroom mirror. Read aloud Q AM X 14 days, then PRN. Every child was meant to be born full and perfect in a loving and generous household. No child was ever meant to be born with a two-chambered heart, spina bifida, or facial dysplasia. No one can ever convince me that a child was born full and perfect only to be later crushed in an earthquake in China, starved in The Sudan, maimed in Viet Nam or to have the Taliban throw acid in her face only because she is a girl who goes to school. These may have been the hands they were dealt but it is the very nature of all humanity to feel moved to alleviate the suffering of any child we see in these and similar situations. You were meant to be born in a loving and generous home but you landed with a sick and sadistic mother. No one in God’s green earth believes that it was the intention of God (or whomever) for you to suffer at her hands. In spite of a terrible childhood, your sensitivity to others and the desire to help was undiminished. You have cared for thousands of patients and animals with a generous sprit and loving heart. All of these thousands of former patients would be spontaneously moved to dress and bandage your still-open wounds if they only knew the hand you had been dealt. They would do this not only out of gratitude but also out of love for you. "
  9. Ariko

    First deaf male nurse in UK

    Interesting news. http://news.bbc.co.uk/local/manchester/hi/people_and_places/newsid_8303000/8303252.stm Any in America yet?
  10. I got my RN at 54. I love nursing, but now, just my age (61) makes floor nursing physically unrealistic. So I do clinic nursing and I love that too. PM me for more details, or we can talk.
  11. Ariko

    Male nursing moments.

    Could you be more specific? Do you have any examples you might be able to add? I think we all recognize that there is something there. I am trying to characterize it more clearly.
  12. Ariko

    What did you NOT expect when you became a nurse.

    And that specific country might be?
  13. Ariko

    Male nursing moments.

    I am not sure what to call this; maybe someone has a better suggestion. I want a term for moments in nursing for something (beneficial) that male nurses do that female nurses are unlikely or unwilling to do. Example #1: I love this kind of story, told by a mother about the care her son received from a male nurse at Children’s Seattle. Her 11 y.o. son was hit by a car while walking in a crosswalk. He was hospitalized for many weeks with lots of rehab. As his neuro recovery progressed, a male nurse gave him a nerf ball and stood at the end of the bed and said “OK kid, hit me.” This became a major focus for the boy’s energy and he practiced constantly. When the nurse passes by the room, he would stand in the door and smile and the boy would try with all his might to hit him with the ball. This was terrific therapy for the boy and helped him recover more quickly. The mother said “A female nurse would never do that.” Example #2: Before I started nursing school, I used to volunteer at Children’s Boston. On the heme/onc floor there was a 5 y.o. girl who had been there for many months. Her mother did not want her back as she was so difficult to care for. One morning I arrived on the floor, and found the child fussing, crying and inconsolable. She was surrounded by three young (and very pretty) female nurses. When she saw me in the door she thrust up her arms for me to pick her up, tears still streaming down her cheeks. One of the nurses came over and said “She is starved for male contact.” We all know that nurses are wonderful, and female nurses are great, but these are examples of something that male nurses can provide that females cannot. Can someone add more? Thanks,
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    Volunteer RN around Seattle?

    Anybody know places that need a volunteer nurse for 1-2 days / week? I have been looking for clinics etc to help out, but so far, no real leads. Most places want 0.5 FTE and I don't want to that large a commitment. Thanks,
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    Are you a nurse from a dysfunctional family?

    I went to see an old friend a few days ago and we discussed this topic - How many nurses do we know who have histories of abuse from their families-of-origin. Answer: Many. First I will discuss Ms. B.. Her mother abused her from her childhood, probably infancy. I found out, during this visit, that she started contemplating suicide from the second grade!!! Can you imagine the kind of pain that an 8 y.o. must be in to plan suicide as a child?? She became a nurse and joined the Navy in the '60s and took care of boys blown to bits in Viet Nam. The horror of caring for maimed young men, who usually died (the best outcome) or left in pieces to live lives gross debilitation and suffering left her with PTSD. After the Navy, she did not think of suicide daily, she thought about it hourly. She went to veterinary school and always has lots of meds and IV supplies around the house with which she could kill herself. Then one day, she realized that she might be impaired and be unable to give herself an injection, so she bought a .357 Magnum. I find it amazing that she never took her own life and I take some credit for this. As we corresponded, (at the time, I was in Boston and she lives in the Northwest) I began to discover the depth of her situation. I started calling the VA in Boston. Eventually I found a social worker at the VA in Seattle, who was a former Navy nurse (this is so cool) during Viet Nam. Ms. B walked into her office and started crying, and continued crying for weeks. Eventually she started on some meds for her mild depression, but they have never been able to treat her suicidal ideation, which still is off the charts. A few years ago, Ms. B was Dx with a low grade Ca. You would think she won the lottery. Finally, she knows she is going to die and she has a ticket out of this life of suffering. As a nurse, I find it challenging to try to respect her wishes, and help her achieve her goals, and at the same time, see the true nature of her despair. I started therapy about 15 years ago. Last year, I took my journal from the Peace Corps (70-72) to my social worker for her to read. She said that if she did not know better, she would think I had Asperger's syndrome. I was unable to read other peoples' affect or have any understanding of my own feelings. Before I moved to Seattle, I worked with a really great LICSW in Boston. She had impressive credentials and worked for a Harvard hospital. The SW I see here in Seattle also has impressive credentials. Both of these women have, at times, looked at me with obvious frustration because I am not willing to admit that I was abused from childhood. Usually I am contemptuous of credentials, but in this case, they cause me to consider their suggestions more carefully than I would otherwise. You would think that at 88, my mother would have mellowed more, but just three months ago she said "You're still cute, in spite of your personality." It is a gift to see her abuse in action as an adult. I try to imagine what she said 55 years ago. My two stepsisters dealt with their childhood in their own ways, which included seven marriages and a suicide. I decided that since I was such a ****-head as a boy, it would better if I become a different person and started cross-dressing. Girls were happy, had friends and understood social situations. If I could become a girl, then I would have those traits too. This has continued since he age of 10. Now it gets interesting. I will be 61 in a couple of weeks, I have always had tremendous affection for nurses, and in the past few years, several reasons for this have emerged. It was during hospitalizations in my early years that I finally felt some caring and tenderness - dare I say it - love. I had eye surgery at 8 and had both eyes bandaged for what seemed like months. I can remember being held against a starched white bodice. For the rest of my life, whenever I see a white nurses' dress, my knees go weak. About ten years ago, I looked in the mirror and saw myself wearing a white blouse, white skirt, white pinafore, white stockings, white shoes and a nurse's cap. "Very nice." I thought. A little voice said to me "Why don't you become a nurse?" I remember that moment clearly, as if I just had been hit with a brick. I could not sleep that night, and the following day started looking for nursing programs in Boston. During the first year, we watched an old movie on how to make a bed. The woman was wearing a white dress and tears were streaming down my cheeks. Nursing has been fabulous for me. I have had the chance to experience, as a caregiver, things I never experiences as a child. Part of this comes the abuse and part from being male. In present society, people can be suspicious of a large man (6'2") who is trying to help them, particularly if it involves a child, but if I am a nurse, then it is fine. There is no distrust. (See "Men and Nursing" elsewhere on this site.) I also love working with nurses, particularly the old birds. Therapy continues, but it is very difficult to get a clear picture of my abuse. I feel like I am being asked to separate single molecules of my personality. "This one is there from the abuse, and this one is really you." How can I tell the difference?
  16. Ariko

    Floor Nursing.

    I was forced to give up floor nursing because of the exhaustion. So I tried clinic nursing and I sit around 90% of the time, doing phone stuff like triage (for 6 months to geezerhood), med refills, calling in lab reports (“Hello, you have chlamydia.”), referrals and the rest. I like it, although I miss direct pt care. I work part time and per diem. The nursing profession has a tremendous range of possibilities. Look around and try a few new types of nursing. P.S. My 61st birthday is in 6 weeks. Eeeekkkkkkk!!!!!