Ah, thanks for all the support — I wish I’d checked this thread again before my comments were due! After talking with other students who saw me in clinical and a friend who’s a nurse and had a similar experience as a student, I decided to let it go. I really didn’t want to do anything in my response that would potentially support her statement that I don’t accept feedback, and after talking with other students who were with me in clinical, I feel pretty confident that this was just one person not liking me and that I’m not really gonna be able to learn anything valuable from her. (As others said in this thread — if she wanted to offer constructive or useful feedback, she would have said something when an incident happened, not called me names after the fact like that!) Also, there was an incident — which to me was so minor I had forgotten it — where I questioned her use of white-centering language to describe skin (she INSISTED that in report we should always say skin is “pink and well-perfused”…I asked “wouldn’t it be more appropriate to say “skin color is appropriate for ethnicity? Because not everyone has pink skin?” and she insisted no, you have to say pink, and the discussion moved on). But yeah, me essentially implying that she was being racist in front of all the other students is probably what she meant when she said I was argumentative and uncivil. I’m not ashamed and I would do it again. 🤷🏻♀️🤣 After talking with my friend who’s been a nurse for years, I realized that it really doesn’t matter — I got a passing grade overall, and she probably just wanted to punish me for questioning her. But trying to discuss it now is likely not gonna benefit me — it’s not even gonna show up on my transcript, and the program director would undoubtedly take her side, because it would basically be my word against hers on whether I was argumentative or not. I certainly DID argue with her when she insisted that everyone has pink skin, because that’s some white-centering racist BS, and if that’s what this was about then that’s not about me. I decided it’s only gonna exhaust me to to try to get clarification, and it’s not gonna benefit me, because if she actually had valuable insight to offer me about my behavior and ways I could improve, she would not have dropped it on me unexpectedly like this— she would have discussed it constructively when I still had a chance to improve.
After final grades are in, I might email the course professor and just let her know that this instructor dropped this criticism on me out of the blue, and that I felt I couldn’t ask for clarification without sounding like I was confirming her accusation that I don’t accept feedback. That prof is a sweetheart, and I think if I offered her that info in good faith, in a kind way, she might share it as constructive criticism with the instructor, which I think would be helpful for future students. I don’t feel comfortable saying anything to the instructor because I feel like any interaction I have with her, she’s gonna perceive as argumentative and uncivil…seeing as I have no clue still what I did to get that on my eval.
But most likely I’m just gonna let it go. It doesn’t actually affect me at all, and there’s a limit to how much I can advocate for future students.