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Bella_25 specializes in BSc.

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  1. The same happened to me. I made the mistake in confiding to a co worker. Then everyone knew. The manager was a real j&rk. He treated me poorly. Spoke down to me. He would leer and absolutely intimidate if I had a concern. He would yell. Horrible experience. I just wish it never happened, but it did. Another example of stigma used against me. And my co-workers did a 180 completely different people. They started to avoid me. I was like OMG really. Would they have done that if I had a broken arm. Nope. It was a toxic environment to work in. Just sickening. But I'm out now so lesson learned.
  2. Bella_25

    Mental heath issues and my career

    Pls do not disclose your health concerns. I made the mistake to do so. To one person who I thought was a friend. Nope. The whole unit knew and my manager. I couldn't understand why when I had volunteered to join a commity or ask for certain training. He refused. Then a few months later...he called me for a meeting...some concerns came up. I know I worked whole heartedly. I still have cards from my patients appreciating me. Anyways, I finally read between the lines and I left. This is one of the contributing factors of me stepping away from this profession. I am tired. I am glad I refused to go to the meeting. I know it would have caused me a downfall in my mental health if I did. So yeah, no one needs to know. Some people well a lot of people gossip, and word spreads like wild fire.
  3. Bella_25

    Retiring Too Soon

    Yes exactly one day at a time my friend. As a nurse when I worked at the bed side. I felt immune to sickness, in my younger years of nursing. I worked to my full capacity. Missed meal breaks, to make sure my patients were ok. I am sure you also have similar experiences. We provided a heart giving service. So now it can be a heart warming memory. I am happy you went out with your family. It's really good to hear that.
  4. Bella_25

    Retiring Too Soon

    Hi. I hope you are doing well. I can relate about not being able to work anymore and the the guilt. I too had to leave my 20 years of nursing. I am grieving that part of my journey and slowly saying goodbye. But as I grieving I am realizing that it's ok. I too have health concerns of my own. It's tough at times I feel like failure to thrive. But I don't want to give up on life. I am tired but I don't want to quit life. I am slowly learning to accept what my new circumstances are. It's ok to be sad it's ok to cry.
  5. Hi there. I am currently deciding on leaving my career. I have been at this for 20 years and I have had a few traumatic experiences. I am trying to heal from that, my mental health, and grieving .... Saying goodbye to being a nurse.

    How did you cope?

    1. VivaLasViejas

      VivaLasViejas, ASN, RN

      Not well, at least not at first. I was so angry that my mind and body had failed me, and for a couple of years after I hung up my stethoscope I really resented the circumstances that had disabled me. I'd expected to work until I was 70, and now I had to retire at 55. It wasn't fair!

      But I've had to accept that this is my role in life, as diminished as it seems. I don't regret leaving nursing, even though I wish the circumstances leading to the end of my career were different. It is what it is. And while I am 100% certain I did the right thing, I occasionally wonder "what if...?" I put my license into Retired status this year because I've had zero practice hours in the past five years, and that's where it will stay. But I'm still a nurse ("once a nurse, always a nurse") and you will be too no matter what you decide to do about your career.

      Wishing you the best of luck! Viva

    2. Bella_25


      Thanks Viva.

      Yeah it is a challenge, I also have bipolar, PTSD (work related), I am working getting the right med combo. Thanks again, it's nice to talk to someone who understands.


    3. VivaLasViejas

      VivaLasViejas, ASN, RN

      You're welcome. Anytime! 🙂

  6. Bella_25

    Nurses with bipolar or anxiety/depression

    Or rn 13. Hi, I hope you are feeling better soon. The only time the licensing body was involved with my health concern was when I had been hospitalized to help stabilize my bipolar blip. My license was put on a temporary hold.