PLEASE HELP!

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So I am in TPAPN and my case manager is just terrible. She is always very rude and mean to me and I have no idea why she is like this to me. I was offered a position at a home health agency doing clerical work...filing and organizing and answering the phone. She says that I can't work in a nursing environment without doing the proper return to work steps. ITS NOT A NURSING JOB! I can't sleep and the stress from this is hurting my health, I have no idea what to do.

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Not sure about Texas but NC has stipulations to what jobs you can return to. I guess they see it as "you need to be monitored". I had a similar experience: had a job interview as a documentation specialist, revealed my past in my interview, got the job, and was told by the BON that I couldn't accept it because I wouldn't be supervised by licensed personnel. Not sure but they probably want you in a job as a "nurse" so you can't go around it. They are definitely not there for us!!

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That is terrible! So what is a person supposed to do, not work at all? So you can't work any job, even if it doesn't require licensure? I was able to work at any non-nursing job that didn't require a nursing licensce without supervision while in the program in my state. I think you guys should somehow appeal that to your state board of nursing.

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My case manager is also very rude and sometimes inappropriate. When I called to report that I was pregnant, she asked me if I had given up on the program. What!?! I'm a married woman just going on about my life. I also had a false positive EtOH where she told me I should be ashamed of myself and that sometimes people just aren't made to succeed. She makes me crazy, but I bite my tongue because TPAPN is still better than losing my license or getting in legal trouble. I deserve so much worse, so I'm biding my time. Eventually I will be done and she'll be out of my life ;) I have 2 years down and 1 more to go. I would say you should move on with your life and look towards the future. One day you won't be under her thumb anymore and you can laugh about the stupid things she said to you.

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TPAPN is the devil and from what I have experienced in my first 3 months is that the case manager is almost as worthless as your advocate. Neither of them have any power or advocate for you in any way. I have almost 7 years of sobriety and have never been employed as a nurse, but I am now RN now with f'n stips on my license while I try to complete my FMHPNP and get a job. It has been a discouraging and extremely frustrating battle all of which has been counterproductive to my already successful/established program of sobriety/mental health. I honestly feel my case manager and advocate should be ashamed of themselves....they are inept.

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Specializes in Cardiology, ICU.

Tips for a rude casemanager:

When they say mean or hurtful things, say this in your calmest voice possible: I understand the benefits of us having a good relationship and that you are working very hard at your job to keep my case open and active, however I find your words hurtful and offensive. Can we start over and talk like one adult to another.

It's the whole "sandwich cookie" constructive criticism approach. You start with something positive, put the crap or not so nice things in the middle and then add another layer of kindness.

They won't know what hit them!

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