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Hi everybody, I'm looking for some advice on dealing with another student in my class. She's a really sweet lady, and since class has started I've been helping her figure out assignments and such. She seems to really want to succeed, but really just can't seem to manage. It's not that she isn't spending time trying, but that she can't really figure anything out. As in, helping her today, she admitted she hadn't scrolled down all the way in our online course manager software (Angel, MyCourses, Blackboard, etc). She'd been working on the project for hours already. I've spent more hours helping her sort out how to do care plans, other assignments, head to toe assessments, therapeutic conversation assignments, etc. She frequently complains that she needs someone to walk her through everything so she can do it herself next time. She can't manage to get anything turned in on time. As in, we had a project due 3 weeks ago and she just now got it done, and she's just starting the project due last week. She's trying to get with Disability Resources to try and work things out.
I feel very badly for her, as she seems to have very poorly managed disabilities that are impairing her ability to succeed in school. I don't mind helping, but honestly, I would never in a million years want this woman as my nurse. Maybe as a social worker or something? She's great with talking to people and has a level of compassion that's rare.
I would feel very badly about abandoning her to her fate, but in all honestly I do not think she will pass the program without significant help (if at all), and I'm finding myself dreading her texts and calls. I know it'll be an hour of going over exactly what the teachers went over, again, and again, and in different words, and sending my own project so she can have an example. In addition, I'm getting the feeling that she wants to blame her failure to succeed on everything but her, which really frustrates me. We all have our different burdens to bear, and I'm dealing with a learning disability myself. Am I wrong to help eek her along? I think it'd be better if I found some way to tactfully stop being a crutch. But how do I do that tactfully, anyway? I've already identified myself as her hero (her words), unintentionally. It's not anything but really annoying to keep helping her figure out that A comes before B, so I feel bad abandoning her, but I don't think I should. Am I being ****** in wanting to stop giving her so much help? I would appreciate any advice y'all can give!