One stressed out SN

[CrazziiRN913, ADN, BSN]

First a foremost this is a vent. Its not really about school but I guess it ties in there somewhere. I am a nursing student I graduate May, 18 2012. I am very excited about my accomplishment and just pray I make it across that stage. Here's my delimma,You know how they say that nursing school causes divorces...that is sooo true at least in my cause but I thinks its a coincidence that I was in school @ the same time. I'm 22 have been married going on 4 year, my husband in 25 and we have a baby that just turned 3. Well basically the reason I'm streSsing is he just told me last night I need to find somewhere to live! We have been arguing and not speaking to each other but I still cook clean and take care of the house and go to school full time. During my 1st year of NS I worked full time but this year I couldn't because my job wouldn't allow me to change my schedule so I had to quit to finish my last year. I found out he's be talking and messing around w/ other women. and I told him I don't think we should be together anymore and he told me to get out...I have no family we only have one car my nearest relative is 60 miles away. All my friends have families of there own and can't take a stray...I just know what to do I have no money and. No place to go...and I cant stay at my relatives house 60 miles and away go to school here! Just looking for a little emotional support right now I guess...idk

[Clovery]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can't even imagine the amount of stress... If you are legally married, you have rights. I'm not experienced with divorce, but I believe he just can't throw you out of the house like that. Who will your child stay with? If he doesn't want to live with you anymore, and he is cheating, he is the one who should move out. He should also still provide support for you and your child. My advice would be to talk to someone who has experience with divorce, google your rights in your particular state regarding divorce and separation. Find out if there are any social services that could help you. In the meantime, keep your cool with your husband.... perhaps try to designate certain areas of the house for each of you so that you can both live there with minimal conflict until a more permanent solution is made. Try not to yell or argue for your own mental health and also for the sake of your child. If he gets violent or threatening, have a plan for how you can get to somewhere safe. Again, I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I hope you get it worked out.... keep us updated.

[iPink, BSN, RN]

Crazzii, I'm not in your situation but I can empathize. This must be devestating. Can both of you seek marriage counseling? You are the mother of his child, and therefore, needs to think about how he's treating you and setting an example for your child by not kicking out his/her mother. If there is no room for reconcilation in your marriage, I would suggest you have a real sit-down discussion of your plans to live as roommates in this temporary situation. Not graduating is not an option, you WILL graduate and at that time it will take some of the pressure off, you just need to focus on passing the NCLEX and getting hired.

[kids]

If he doesn't want to be married anymore then HE is the one who needs to leave.

Go talk to the folks at your local YWCA, they can help you navigate the system to get a custody agreement and child support.

You should be eligible for some state aid including food stamps and child care while you get on your feet.

Your nursing school classmates may be a good resource in terms of a roommate (as a bonus, they've all cleared a criminal background check).

[CrazziiRN913, ADN, BSN]

Thanx guys I will keep you updated on what's going on. I'm trying to stop stressing soo much I been losing a lot of weight and everybody has been noticing I wasn't big anyways so like my family c's me and knows somethings wrong, I haven had a good nights sleep in almost a month and I've been sleeping on the couch a lot to. I'm gonna go consult social services tomorrow!