So, I have somewhat of a quandry with the nurses in my Grandmother's LTC. I am JUST a nursing student and I don't want to seem like I am trying to start something but I think that there are some problems. Does it ever seem to anyone else that sometimes there is a lack of understanding of a Patient, or Client relationship/ nurse, CNA relationship as opposed to a Friend or Grandmother/ nurse, CNA relationship. My grandmother is suffering from dementia and in my opinion side effects of pain meds and she is doing some name calling, and recently attempted to hit one of the nurses before they took her to her shower. My problem with this is that if a person is suffering from dementia and thinks that her only safe place is her little room, and someone tries to take her to shower without warning, that she is going to react that way. I think she needs some kind of warning or needs to be told an hour or two before. The CNA that takes care of my grandma used to be pretty careful at taking good care of her. Now recently since the dementia started she is taking my grandmothers comments personally. I think people need to understand in LTC that I know that you can get attached to these people but that they are your PATIENTS and your CLIENTS NOT YOUR FRIENDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NOT YOUR GRANDPARENTS!! These are not people that it is NOT appropriate to expect a two way friendship. People in LTC go downhill. You take care of them and respect them not expect them to be your wise old grandparents. It is a JOB that needs to be done well. I also think that these people need to understand that these post WWII generation people come from a different time and understanding and culture. There is a different level of respect than is needed in our generation's more casual culture. Certain things may offend them that don't offend us. What do you think? Am I crazy?