Obnoxious Classmate

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So I just started my program a little over 2 months ago and I’ve been oh so blessed to be seated next to someone that continuously asks me to repeat what the professor just said during the lectures and as I tell her, I miss out on the new things the professor said right after. Other times, the professor will ask “I’m sorry do you ladies have any questions? You’re a bit chatty over there”. Of course she says no. She also tends to wake me up during lunch break and asks for me to help her with things she does not understand. While that’s completely fine on some days, I work overnight twice a week (and yes she knows) so squeezing in a quick 30 min nap on those days makes such a huge difference for me (she’s aware of that as well).

I’m sure to some of you I sound like a complete jerk. But keep in mind that I’m still very polite to her and continue to help her whenever she asks. I just can’t imagine dealing with this for the next 10 months as the courses become more intense. Is it too late to set boundaries at this point? If not, how would I kindly go about doing so?

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Switch seats, tell her you cant hear the lecture if she keeps talking, offer to let her read your notes after class, suggest that she audio record the class - any one of these will do.

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I don’t think you’re being a jerk at all I was annoyed reading the things this classmate does.. I’m 3 months into my program and recently had to set boundaries with a fellow classmate that became too dependent on me for rides to and from school.. set boundaries.. be polite

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14 hours ago, It'sYaGirlK said:

I don’t think you’re being a jerk at all I was annoyed reading the things this classmate does.. I’m 3 months into my program and recently had to set boundaries with a fellow classmate that became too dependent on me for rides to and from school.. set boundaries.. be polite

One of the girls in my class is going through that and the person she picks up comes up with every excuse as to why she can’t contribute to gas. Good thing you got out of that

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20 hours ago, TAKOO01 said:

Switch seats, tell her you cant hear the lecture if she keeps talking, offer to let her read your notes after class, suggest that she audio record the class - any one of these will do.

We were assigned seats from day 1 so if I were to just all of a sudden take someone else’s seat at this point, it would look a little suspect. I think I’m going to take your advice about telling her to record the lectures. Thank you!

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On 3/24/2019 at 2:00 PM, Nursevibes said:

One of the girls in my class is going through that and the person she picks up comes up with every excuse as to why she can’t contribute to gas. Good thing you got out of that

Yes I’m glad I did as well! In the 3 months I gave rides gas was offered only once and she stays in the opposite direction of me.. some people have no problem taking advantage of using you as long as you let them.. hopefully your classmate set some boundaries and soon

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