you cannot see your nursing instructor as your enemy. there is absolutely nothing wrong with having a friendly and pleasant, cordial relationship with an instructor. many universities encourage this kind of relationship between students and professors because we are all seekers of knowledge
. although they are supervising you, your instructors are still colleagues and deserve respect. you cannot show fear of him/her. if it turns out that he/she is not a nice, ethical person, they just might pick up on that flaw in your self-esteem and pounce on you for it. nurses have to be strong leaders. if an instructor doesn't get the sense that you have that strong leadership quality within you, then, yes, you may be doomed if your instructor is not a nice person. here's the list of qualities that employers look for in professional workers (that includes nurses and nursing students). i post it all the time for new grads. i also advise nursing students that your nursing instructors are evaluating you all the time for some of these qualities. your first employer will go to your nursing instructors for a recommendation of your ability as a potential nurse. so, it is to your benefit to put your best foot forward at all times in the presence of your instructors, especially in the clinical area.
- positive attitude
- dynamic energy
- ability to give good customer service
- capacity to learn
- team work
- ability to tolerate pressure
- analytical ability
- desire to develop professionally
no one is going to take you by the hand and say, "oh, ens1987, you missed the orientation to the unit the other day. let me show you where everything is." instead, you have to step forward and ask, "would you please show me where this, this, and this is? thank you." and, it doesn't matter if your instructor or your boss hates you. you only have to get along with them and each do your job. being a nursing student is an interactive process. you can't just sit back and let the education come to you. you have to often seek out opportunities of learning and ask for feedback and criticism of your performance--no matter how painful it may be to hear it. that is a indication of responsibility, a desire to develop professionally, the ability to tolerate pressure, the capacity to learn, and flexibility--all things on that list i posted above. you have to have those qualities within you and use them to your advantage. nursing is change and flexibility personified. there are very few nursing jobs where things go routinely. that's why nurses have to be creative and flexible about getting the needs of their patients and themselves met.
i've been in the world a long time. if there's anything i have learned, it's that nothing defeats a person faster than a negative attitude. it holds people back and prohibits them from making any kind of progress. and, learning is a process of change and progress. if you can't, or won't, change your thinking and the ways you are approaching your nursing education, then your worst fears will come true. you will unconsciously draw them to you like a magnet.