Dear Nurse Beth,
For the last few years starting at a job I was at for 6 yrs, I have been having different issues, mostly with defending myself or the people around me, before the issues started I had been well liked at almost every job I had, or at least respected for working hard and good patient care, so I left the job I was at thinking maybe I just needed a change but the 2 jobs I took after that did not work out either, I'm 47 yo and frankly I put my heart and soul into this job and feel like such a failure after all this How do I get another job ?? I'm a single mom and haven't ever had a problem getting a job so I'm scared to death.
Dear Feeling Like a Failure,
I'm sorry you're going through this. This sounds like a semi-desperate situation for a single mom like yourself.
You have had three jobs that didn't work out and are now unemployed?
Your first priority is landing a job. You must put all your efforts into job-searching:
- Activate your network. Let everyone know you are looking for a job
- Apply, apply, apply.
- Make sure your resume is mistake-free and highlights your skills
- Hone your interview skills
Once you land a job and if/when you run into "issues", you may need to acquire different coping mechanisms and skills. You are hard-working, well-liked, respected, and you put your heart and soul into your work. At the same time you are having problems with the people around you. The only person you can change is yourself.
You can do this by self-reflection; seeking the counsel of a trusted, insightful person;
obtaining counseling. Some employers offer employee assistance counseling (EAP) as a benefit.
Author, "Your Last Nursing Class: How to Land Your First Nursing Job"...and your next!
Oct 12, '17
Dear Feeling like a Failure.
This is must be awful for you. There may be a number of things at play here. At 46 you may be having some physiological issues that can impact all areas of your life. Menopause messes up our emotions as well as our sleep patterns, physical comfort. A good physical and some counseling can usually help. I found myself trying to mother, protect, solve problems for everyone around me.
Relative to the job issue: Go to every interview with a positive attitude about yourself and your abilities. You may feel insecure and doubt yourself just now, but don't let the interviewers see that. Using a mirror practice holding your head up, smiling at yourself, and saying: "I am a good person and a good, capable nurse." Imagine yourself doing well during the interview and coming out feeling good about your performance
It may seem hokey but it can work. as they say: "Fake it til you make it."Best of luck to you."
Last edit by retirednotdead on Oct 12, '17
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