Devastated and Depressed - page 2

I graduated from nursing school in December of 2013 with honors (magna cum laude, 3.91 GPA, Sigma Theta Tau - the whole works). Unfortunately, like many new grads, I had a hard time finding a job.... Read More

  1. by   RNinDM
    Get a real nursing position, longer than a year, before getting your MS. Some hospitals will actually help you with funding. No one wants a nurse manager who has not actually been a nurse.
  2. by   Kooky Korky
    Quote from Lil<3LPN
    I feel your frustration. I graduated in 2014 from the LPN program. Took the NCLEX a few months later and didn't pass, in the mean time I worked in ED as a CNA, studied my butt off then took it again last year in March and finally passed. I was so excited. I wished I was able to stay in the ED but they didn't hire LPN. So I took my first nursing job at an OB/GYN office in June of last yr. with so much excitement enthusiasm and what a huge difference. I went from being loved by my peers in the ED to being disliked by a lot of the medical assistants because they felt I was there to take their job. smh. I was pretty much thrown in and no other nurse to look to besides my boss who I like but was always busy. Things have gotten better but it's not what I expected. I went from doing triage as a brand new nurse with another MA to having my own schedule where All I do is all the inj. and pregnancy test(plus everything with it), which are all scheduled with me. I feel like I'm losing my clinical skills; skills that I worked so hard for in the nursing program. I'm just not happy. I miss my ED family so much. Times where I wished that I stayed there till I was able to obtain my RN. Times where I thought of going to a nursing home but I don't want to leave the hospital....the dr. office is part of the hosp. Heck, I would love to do a Foley. LOL. I have learned some things from there but you can only go so far. Plus I've had to deal with some bias stuff. There is a woman who has no patience for pt. where english is their second language. I've had pt. complained about her, and have gone to my boss about it but I don't think anything got done because I still see her raising her voice at them and being rude. There was one time where she came to me asking if I can talk to a spanish speaking pt. who is out in the waiting room and since spanish is my second language I said sure, what is her name? Her response, "You can ask her when you see her"....Ok, so because I'm hispanic I'm suppose to know what another hispanic person looks like? Let me just get my radar out and find her. I was so angry. I mean c'mon!! I've been currently looking for positions in the hospital but nothing yet. But now I'm nervous because of the lack of skills I have. But I'm miserable to. Idk. I am going to school trying to get these prereqs out the way so I can get in the RN program. Should I stay and suck it up till I Obtain my RN or get in the hospital setting, I just feel a little lost. I even thought of staying there and getting a per diem position at a nursing home till I got in the RN program. I wish I could do per diem at the hospital but they consider it overtime since the office is a part of them. I feel so sad and alone at times.
    If you can get enough per diem hours to support yourself, I think you might be happier. You sound miserably sad and afraid and full of resentment.

    I hope you told the gal asking you to translate what you told us. Sounds like you work with unhappy people.
  3. by   JenFad
    Quote from Kooky Korky
    Sounds like you work with unhappy people.
    There are many miserable people in the workplace. I think unhappy people should fake it (being happy) until they make it or get something to be happy about.
  4. by   RNinDM
    Stick it out while looking for another job, but really look and look hard. I stuck it out in a place that treated me miserably and the stress became too much. I started having anxiety attacks. Felt that my co-workers in a department and hospital were out to get me - and guess what - they were. Bunch of nasty people. There are some wonderful, amazing people in nursing, but there are some that are just snakes. Get another job and then go back to school to get your RN, you'll have more options. Hang in there and I hope that you get in somewhere with a good crew.
  5. by   Helluvanurse
    Quote from wolf9653
    Unfortunately, I think many places that hire new grads, do it because they can't get anybody else. Which, of course, is exactly the polar opposite of what a new grad needs. Hang in there, keep trying. Nursing needs you.
    yes be aware of New Grads Welcome. They are desperate for a warm body. Get skilled nursing or med surg experience before jumping into Nicu. So many people want to jump to the top and then fail. Why would you do with six shifts of training as a new grad? It's not enough. You should have declined the position. That was th test. You weren't ready and those nurses knew it and were showing you. They worked up the ladder to get there.
  6. by   chinny7150
    As a new Grad, I was immediately thrown into a sink or swim situation. I swam, but suffered. There were plenty of outfits that I worked for, some good, some bad. All in all I kept to my Nursing Standards and ethical views. I too was a 3.89 4 year grad, and found reality in Nursing way more different than actual practice. Stick to your guns, PATIENT SAFETY is the most important aspect of your job. Do no harm... If you can perform those 2 functions within a facility you can't go wrong. I have been asked by various DON's to lie, cheat, and perform sub standard care. Stick to your guns... Do what is right despite what you are told what to do. I have had a long career and managed to enjoy my job despite the challenges. Good luck.
  7. by   TraumaKittyRN
    Don't let the excitement of finding your dream job stop you from doing your do diligence. Always put as much time into investigating your potential employer as they would put into you. Take a list of questions with you so you don't forget what to ask in the interview. I have even gone so far as to scope websites they rate hospitals and regularly show up early for an interview to walk around the hospital. Ask for a wall around the unit you will be working in if they don't offer it, take time to look at the people working. Are they working in teams or is everyone off in their own corner? Do people look happy? Do they interact with you even if it's making eye contact or do they avoid you? Never accept a job on the spot either, take the time to go home and think overt how you feel about everything you saw. Above all remember you ARE a commodity, don't get trapped into believing that they are doing you a favor, you have something they want so remember to be very sure you're being valued properly. Hope that helps