why be nice?

[Flipper911]

How many times do we shy away from confrontation? Where is the reward for being the nice guy? When can we unwrap what are tru feeling are? When can we have our say? How many family members have cornered you until you are at your limit? When will the damn break?

[canesdukegirl, BSN, RN]

One of the drawbacks of our profession is that we see people during the WORST times in their lives. Stress makes people act out, say the wrong things, and generally throw darts at whoever is standing nearby. Keep in mind that these patients and families are terrified. They are in unfamiliar territory, and the greatest human fear is of the unknown. While you should be firm and assertive (kind of like when you are sober and you are trying to get your drunk friend to stop being an obnoxious $*@), remember that in general, the patients and families that you are dealing with are freaking out, and are not in a rational frame of mind.

Sounds like you need a vacation. It really helps. You don't have to spend any money, go anywhere, do anything. Just take some time to get away from the chaos and the negativity. I was at my breaking point before I went on vacation, and let me tell you, I have an entirely new and refreshing outlook on life now! You will thank yourself for it, and you will will RESPECT yourself for the change in attitude it will bring.