Newlywed starting nursing school

[studentnursemon86]

Hi all, just looking for advice once again. I got accepted to an ADN program in the spring and I start this month. Since then it has been a busy summer of getting ready as well as getting married!

I will be working 12 hour nights Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. I'll have class Monday Wednesdays and Thursdays for my first semester. It doesn't seem like a lot, but with work it is. I work a demeaning ER tech job.

My husband is afraid he will never see me: he works a production tech job, sometimes 3-11 and sometimes 11-7. I'm hoping he gets back on nights because I can see him in the evenings, but I'm sure I'll b studying.

Does anyone have some time management tips for me so I can still see my husband some of the time?

Thanks

[AllInRN, ASN, BSN]

it going to be all about quality of the time - not the quantity.

Its going to be rough working overnight Sunday 12 hours then going to school Monday.

Stay on top of your nursing school work - don't put things off.

Good luck to you.

[TLizS]

Stay on top of things....if you are ahead of the game you can afford to occasionally drop everything and spend some time together. Make the time you get together quality (as said before) and try not to focus on how little time you get together.

I spent the last year and a half going to school at night an hour from home. My husband would leave around 6am every morning...I would see him about 15-20 mins before he left (while I was getting things ready for our day) I'd get the kids ready and taken to school....come home and study and take care of my youngest who wasnt in school yet. pick up my older from school...do homework with them.....drop them with the sitter....and usually pass my husband on the hwy on my way to school (on his way home). He would get the kids and put them to bed. and I'd get home between 11 and midnight usually...exhausted and just ready for bed...or with homework that had to be done.

it wasn't fun at all....but the way we look at it is this is temporary. It wont be long before it's over (although it feels like a long time now) and we will settle into a new routine that is much more convenient for us. It's worth the sacrifice in the long run though.....

we try to have date nights when we can (not nearly often enough) and I try to make sure that even when I know I have to study I give him at least a few minutes. But the biggest thing is open communication.....make sure you're on the same page.....and if one of you is feeling like you need some time with the other SAY IT...and make it happen.

[RunBabyRN]

Make your time together count. Even if you aren't working, you will find that your time with your SO is limited, because you also need to study, meet with a group for a project, SLEEP, etc. Think of this as a test and something that is time-limited. There's a light at the end of the tunnel, and this is pain with a purpose.

Do little things to let each other know you're thinking of each other, even if you can't be together. Send a sweet random text, leave a little note for him in his pocket, pick up his favorite snack to have on hand, whatever.