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Newly graduated RN... and pregnant

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I'm needing some advice here. I just graduated in May, just got a job and have orientation next week. I just took a pregnancy test because I was late and it is WAY positive (it almost jumped out at me). I'm completely freaking out for a ton of reasons:

1. Yeah, starting a new job.... not sure this is the best impression.

2. Um... Way to go Paragard! This was obviously NOT planned.

3. Tell my new employer immediately? Wait? I don't know what to do.

I'd appreciate any advice out there.

afox

Specializes in Neuro, Neuro ICU.

Have you found out how far along you are? And how long is orientation?

It really depends on the Mgr & facility how they'll react. But to reassure you, I have a friend who was hired while pregant. She didn't tell them at the interview, even though she was showing a little bit, and waited until after the job was offered, and started orientation to tell them. They were completely cool with it. She got hired the first week in august and was Due in December. As long as she completed her 90 day orientation, she as able to keep her job and this hospital even gave her paid maternity leave.

My advice would be, since its pretty early in your pregnancy, just tell them when you start orientation or maybe even a few weeks in. You shouldn't have any problem finishing your orientation and this way it wont look like you are trying to hide something. Women get pregnant, and thats something employers realize when hiring, they cant discriminate against you. And even though some do, by telling them early, you are giving them ample notice to find coverage for your shifts.

Congrats on the pregnancy by the way :)

iteachob, MSN, RN

Specializes in OB, NICU, Nursing Education (academic).

It's really none of your employer's business (especially at this point...early pregnancy and during orientation)! It will become obvious soon enough.

Just look around....plenty of pregnant nurses j(and other healthcare workers) in most hospitals.

If you became pregnant with a Paragurd IUD in place PLEASE call your doctor.

@Rainn- I called immediately, I'm going in tomorrow because of the high risk of ectopic pregnancy.

To all of you- Thanks for the replies. I appreciate hearing this. If this is a legit pregnancy (i.e. not ectopic) it would make #3 for my husband and I.

Double-Helix, BSN, RN

Specializes in PICU, Sedation/Radiology, PACU. Has 10 years experience.

1. Yeah, starting a new job.... not sure this is the best impression.

It might not feel like it's the best impression, but the vast majority of employers will be understanding about pregnancy. Legally, they can't descriminate against you for it, so even if they don't like it, they can't retaliate. The employer is not obligated to give you any maternity benefits, (per policy, most require one year of employment) but they do have to hold your job for you for six weeks.

2. Um... Way to go Paragard! This was obviously NOT planned.

Congratulations! Babies are exciting whether they are planned or not! Definately call your doctor (find an OB-GYN) and make an appointment, especially if you have Paragard in place. Find out how far along you are and that will help guide your decision to tell your employer.

3. Tell my new employer immediately? Wait? I don't know what to do.

Usually I would say that you don't have any obligation to tell your employer that you are pregnant as soon as you find out. Many people prefer to wait until they are further along in the pregnancy or until they are beginning to show. It's really up to you.

However, you didn't mention what kind of job you have, so the one expection to the rule above would be if you were working with any drugs that could be harmful (chemo) or patients with certain diseases that are harmful for pregnant women. If so, you should tell your employer about your pregnancy so that you are not assigned to patients with these conditions. If it's not an issue where you work, feel free to tell them whenever you are comfortable. If it were me, I would probably mention something after orientation, once it has been established that you are a good fit for the job.

Congratulations again. Good luck!

I'm starting my career in Labor and Delivery.

Double-Helix, BSN, RN

Specializes in PICU, Sedation/Radiology, PACU. Has 10 years experience.

I'm starting my career in Labor and Delivery.

How appropriate! :-)

Btw, if possible, I recommend planning to deliver at a hospital other than where you work. Just so that it's not you co-workers who see you when you're in labor. It also will afford you more privacy, as your co-workers won't be popping in to visit frequently.

Good luck with your pregnancy and in your new career!

casi, ASN, RN

Specializes in LTC. Has 3 years experience.

I'd wait to tell your new employer. Most people I know have waited around 3 months to inform employers, this seems to be a good time period as the risk of miscarriage at this point as drastically decreased.

I say get into your doctor first and find out what is going on and then go from there.

How appropriate! :-)

Btw, if possible, I recommend planning to deliver at a hospital other than where you work. Just so that it's not you co-workers who see you when you're in labor. It also will afford you more privacy, as your co-workers won't be popping in to visit frequently.

Very appropriate, lol! And not to worry... I won't deliver where I work, it's the county hospital and a 27 mile drive for me!

NicuGal, MSN, RN

Specializes in NICU, PICU, PACU. Has 30 years experience.

I'd tell them when you start...you may get moms with things you can't be exposed to (ie certain viruses, etc) at our hospital some things carry a "don't give to the pregnant one" stigma that has been set up by our OB docs and NICU docs.

And it isn't that bad to deliver where you work...were I work, our insurance only covers our hospital 100% so you may want to check you insurance. I work 32 miles from work and delivered my kiddos there...and it is a county hospital ( you kind of made it sound like it is bad to deliver at a county hospital when most of them are higher level hospitals funded by county monies).

Good luck!

How appropriate! :-)

Btw, if possible, I recommend planning to deliver at a hospital other than where you work. Just so that it's not you co-workers who see you when you're in labor. It also will afford you more privacy, as your co-workers won't be popping in to visit frequently.

I'd tell them when you start...you may get moms with things you can't be exposed to (ie certain viruses, etc) at our hospital some things carry a "don't give to the pregnant one" stigma that has been set up by our OB docs and NICU docs.

And it isn't that bad to deliver where you work...were I work, our insurance only covers our hospital 100% so you may want to check you insurance. I work 32 miles from work and delivered my kiddos there...and it is a county hospital ( you kind of made it sound like it is bad to deliver at a county hospital when most of them are higher level hospitals funded by county monies).

Good luck!

No, it's not that it's bad to deliver there. It is one of the top places to deliver in our area. I wouldn't have picked that place to work if it wasnt. In fact, I delivered my other two girls at the county hospital (by a CNM) in our old city we lived in prior. I guess I should clarify that with this pregnancy (if it's not ectopic) I would want a CNM to deliver me at a birthing center, which is why I wouldn't be delivering at a hospital (hopefully). Most of the CNMs in this area have their own birthing centers. In the other city we lived in (it was a small college town), the midwifes there either did home births (not what I want) or delivered at the county hospital, no birthing centers. So if I can have that option to deliver at a birthing center, that is what I want. Sorry for sounding like I'm dissing the county hospital, that's not my intention.

CONGRATS!!! And, I'd wait. Like somebody else already said, it's really none of their business especially being this early in the pregnancy.

Honestly, as SOON as I get home from filling out new hire paperwork (when I finish school and finally get a job) the husband and I are on like Donkey Kong. We've been putting off baby number two until I'm gainfully employed and this uterus isn't getting any younger. lol

ps. I also have paragard. Eek!

ps. I also have paragard. Eek!

I am scheduled to switch out my Mirena IUC to Paragard next week. I'm having second thoughts now...

Well, I should clarify that I think the OB-GYN that put it in did not put it in correctly, as my strings are not hanging out. It's been an issue for a couple of years, and for all I know it has embedded in my uterine lining and that is why it didn't work.

:hug: I will keep you in my prayers.

Hi,

I am a pregnant nurse myself. I had been at my job for about 6months. I found out that I was pregnant. I decided to tell my employer at 3months since that is what my doctor thought was the best time. Well, I called to tell my employer since I know we have alot of overweight patients to see what there protocol was and it seemed as if I cursed my manager when I told her. She seemed to be mad with me for asking about lightening my assignment by not pulling on the heavier patients. I didn't get a congratulations or nothing. Then a month later, how is the baby. I just looked at her, I was so hurt. She said she would let the other charge nurses know and try to manage my assignment, but every night that I worked, it seemed that I had the larger patiens and I was the pregnant one. No one looked out for me and that is sad. I would sometimes bleed from pulling on pts, finally my husband told to just quit but I didnt. I finally took a early maternity leave, my baby is due on the 23rd of July. My manager has no heart. I called out one day and she took the call. I told her that I had been bleeding and that I wouldn't be in that night. There was no sympathy about how I was doing or how the baby was doing. Anyway I want to say to you. Keep your job, wait til you are three months, tell your employer. People get pregnant all the time. On my floor there were four of us. Work as long as you can and ask for help. Don't pull on these pts by yourself. If you have a good manager they will understand. Some managers do have hearts, mine just doesn't. She said she would hold my job. I don't believe that either. I haven't been there a year. Another month would've made a year. Remember your baby and you come first. Keep your job, you cannot be descriminated upon, but you probably won't be able to get but six weeks maternity leave, after that, they

can offer your job to someone else. You have nothing to lose. Goodluck.